I'm sorry to tell you this, Keane, but if you want to be more open, it's like anything: you will have to try things and see what works and what doesn't work with people, as you are unique, so like everybody, you will need to find the right way for you to exchange with people (not only simply talking, but the way you express yourself). And believe me, at the beginning, you will get "flat out rejected" a good number of times.Keane wrote:Kind of. Something that will just immediately turn me away is when I'm willing to be a little more open and I get flat out rejected.
Don't forget not to overreact too much about people's reactions. You are not in their mind: sometimes they are just not in the mood, or something else is worrying them. In the case of your family, if you want to talk about anything with your mother or your brother, and they tell you they don't have time for this, then try again later. There is nothing bad in trying and getting a negative answer, this is how you build confidence in yourself.
I would like to put a little point here: RPC is a place where expression is, almost all the time, shared with other people through writing. And writing shows very little of what a person is. Sure, we can talk about a lot of things here, but remember that here there are no usual conversation blockers like physical appearance, glances, behaviour thingies, and hush-hush...ing?Keane wrote:As for online, RPC's just kind of a different thing I think. I can't name anyone here who's got that kind of shallowness that I really can't stand.
I remember when I was talking with Shrooblord or Hunchman only by writing at the beginning, and then I met them on Skype. Although it only made my opinion about them way better (seriously, you guys are nice to chill out with), the difference between before and after was significant in terms of the representation I had of them.
So, Keane, do not forget to try to find nice people you can do things with in your more "common", day-to-day life. It's important, it helps you feel better and gain self-confidence. I was like you in my teenage years: anxious about other people's views, shy (and rejected). I simply needed to find nice guys I could hang around with. And I didn't meet most of them during high school or middle school, where it's obvious that people who don't want to belong to a group or a specific code are a bit rejected by their peers (it's a bit like that here, and according to what I read, even more extreme in the US). Do not lose faith, but do not think it will happen like magic one day. Work on it. You will feel even more self-satisfied if you manage to make something you are not naturally comfortable with work.
It just felt so normal.
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