Something Bothering you?/Daily Doldrums

[Cairnie]

I have an awful feeling this may be me considering what's been going on.

It's not you don't worry.

[saerleiya]

I have an awful feeling this may be me considering what's been going on.

Maybe not about this in particular, but you reblog an insane amount of things, Serz'

[iHeckler9]

Also, I don't want to namedrop but I'm fed up of people feeling like they need to reblog a million things on the trot in one day, I mean like how many reblogs of Five nights at Freddy's does one person need to make in one day for example? I know there are extensions that can help cut this stuff down from my dash but that's not the point. I wouldn't clog my own blog up with that many reblogs, so why would other people want to do this to theirs? I just don't get it.

I have an awful feeling this may be me considering what's been going on.

I guess Stace's following me without my knowledge...

[MLII]

there are two options for what is going on in my social life right now

1: i am an unbearably annoying person who is slowly alienating all their friends/family and literally everyone who knows me is getting tired of me and is starting to wish i'd leave them alone for a considerably lengthy amount of time
2: i'm incredibly paranoid

idk that's just how it feels

[Keane]

Everyone seems a bit of an overstatement, don't you think? I think people tend to judge their own behaviour as something more than it usually is: Nearly every attempt I've made at talking to someone makes me cringe and wonder if they thought I came across rude or trying too hard, but they've never shown any sign of feeling that way and still seem legitimately interested in talking to me.

I'm probably not the best person to say it because I can feel terrible for the next three hours when I feel like my voice didn't sound clear enough while answering a simple question, but I am aware that certain things that might stick around your head for a while will already be forgotten by them. Kinda like if a teacher tells you to be quiet or calls you out for zoning out. They probably didn't think about it again, but the sudden confrontation has you saying "well you didn't have to say it so rudely" in your head for the next ten minutes.

[Shrooblord]

I was coincidentally with someone I barely knew and had a bit of an encounter like that, where she thought that people would think she sounded arrogant just because of the way she talks and I reassured her that there wasn't a hint of arrogance in her voice. People judge themselves far more harshly than they judge others; just speak to someone and see whether you can find a situation where you're actively thinking about one particular maneurism that the other has. You probably won't be doing that, yet you expect that the other is. Why? Maybe it's how we constantly improve ourselves. We see things about ourselves that we don't agree with or that we think we should have done differently and consequently, we change our ways.

[MLII]

hhh i guess??

you probably have a point OTL i do have a serious social anxiety problem and the homeschooling did play a big part in that (and cheer club but that's a story for another day)

to make an example of one of my friends she does this a lot

(the image is from skype i just blocked her name out)

and like. does that mean you find me funny. or you want me to leave you alone for the rest of your life.

idk it's stuff like that that makes me nervous X: all of my friends do it a lot

[Shrooblord]

When they laugh at your jokes? That probably means you're being funny.

[Imco]

Yeah, it's more of a lol than a sarcastic "ha. ha." I think

[saerleiya]

you probably have a point OTL i do have a serious social anxiety problem and the homeschooling did play a big part in that (and cheer club but that's a story for another day)

You could talk about that with Gwee maybe: she is also doing homeschooling right now. Maybe she could give you some unexpected advices. I don't want to interfere here because I'm not doing homeschooling therefore I can't really know how you feel.

[Disionity]

Not really anything too horrid, but at the moment, I'm home schooled and behind on my work to the point where I'll have to do some crunch-time to get caught back up. On another note, my grandmother is living with us at the moment and she smokes a fair bit (outside of the house, but the scent is on her and it's carried through inside the house), so I'm freaking out about cigarette exposure. As well, as I have a lingering feeling of discontent, that won't go away. Sometimes, it's not there or relatively low, and other times, I feel like an emotional wreck.

[saerleiya]

On another note, my grandmother is living with us at the moment and she smokes a fair bit (outside of the house, but the scent is on her and it's carried through inside the house), so I'm freaking out about cigarette exposure.

It's only dangerous on the long run if she smokes close to you. The scent is not that great, but it's not a big deal: staying in your car with AC in the middle of a traffic jam is far more dangerous in terms of pollution exposure. The only problem I see if you getting used to the scent so you will maybe have more chanc to start smoking in the future. But if you haven't started yet, even that is not really important: my parents smoked outside when my brothers and I were kids, and I only discovered smoking in my early 20's. I do it very occasionnally, and it hasn't influenced my breath at all (like, when scubadiving, I'm pissed off because everyone gotta go back to the surface because they consumed 50/60 more bars than me :'(...).

[Shrooblord]

[Cairnie]

Passive smoking has always been a problem for me regardless if it was my family or strangers on the street. I would wake up feeling clogged up in my throat all the time and taking a whole suitcase full of clothes that stunk of smoke into an always-smokefree house was the most embarrassing shit. Thankfully our house is virtually smokefree now but I'm tired of seeing so many other people not making the same effort as my dad especially - smoked for 30 odd years, only switched to e-cigarettes a few months ago because of my baby niece. I know it's hard and I know that the thought of an e-cig exploding is off putting but for now, the house has been more pleasant for me since e-cigs hardly smell of anything.

You're kinda right about cars though, even non/ex-smokers' cars make me feel gross because of the fumes they make.

[Earth Gwee]

I have an extremely hard time with cigarette fumes. If I get even a whiff of it I have to start coughing. If I'm close to someone who's smoking I refuse to allow myself a decent breath. I end up getting a dry throat if I'm exposed long enough, and it doesn't take long at all. I'm also cautious around e-cigarettes, because even though they don't have a scent they still blow nicotine into the air, which is why I don't want to risk breathing it.

[Shrooblord]

I used to be exactly like that, but I've changed my habits over the years. I don't cough from smoke anymore, but I avoid it whenever possible.

[PluMGMK]

I used to be like that until fairly recently, now that I'm at university smoke is practically ubiquitous.

[Master]

Pretty much Plum here, though I still try to hold my breath, I don't really mind smokers, it's more the fumes that end up making me cough and somewhat nauseas at times.

[Imco]

I have the habit of holding in my breath whenever I cycle past smoking pedestrians :')

[iHeckler9]

I have the habit of holding in my breath whenever I cycle past smoking pedestrians :')

Glad to see I'm not the only one.