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ZeptoRay wrote:It get worse because I get older. He is doing this since I was 5 years old, I'm kind of used to it now.

I really don't understand parenting like that. Yelling at 5 year old? That just sounds insane in my opinion.
He must learn he is wrong. And forcing someone to believe in god is also wrong. And being sick has nothing to do with believing in god. Many people who believe in god get sick too.

OldClassicGamer wrote:

ZeptoRay wrote:It get worse because I get older. He is doing this since I was 5 years old, I'm kind of used to it now.

I really don't understand parenting like that. Yelling at 5 year old? That just sounds insane in my opinion.
He must learn he is wrong. And forcing someone to believe in god is also wrong. And being sick has nothing to do with believing in god. Many people who believe in god get sick too.

i sorta know that kind of parenting, my mother and step-dad have always been like that, i don't talk directly to them much while i'm there because i'm scared they'll go WWJD on my ass. sorry ocg, this style of parenting is more common than you think.

Indeed. I'd almost consider it lucky to not have parents like that.

I'm happy its just my dad, my mom isn't like that at least.

My family argues often, my dad is usually angry most of the time for what seems like absolutely no reason whatsoever - I'm suspecting that he has depression at this point, probably induced by his alcoholism or genetics, my sister is angry even more often than my dad, my mom can be nice one day and a complete bitch another, I never had a true childhood and thus my inner child is screaming and diving into a downward spiral as I'm now I've been in adolescence for a bit of awhile now; I have few friends most of them don't pay much attention to me and the ones I sit by at lunch only seem to notice me when they need their trash thrown away. I have extremely poor social skills and I'm much greater at communicating via a computer so therefore I prefer to keep to myself and spend my days in my mind instead of speaking through my mouth; I'm lazy and pretentious, school is already starting to become overwhelming because we've had piles of projects and homework already this early into the school year, most of the people at my school I cannot relate to or show empathy for, nor do I like; they used to annoy me to the point that I often times thought of how idiotic they were nearly if not every single day, only reassuring that I'm pretentious.

And the list goes on. That's all I could think of - for now.

I haven't had much of a childhood either. Parents beating me up because I was acting weird because they didn't knew I was autistic until I was 11. I also never had a true friend. lets just say my childhood is a dark part of my life that I don't want to think about.

ZeptoRay wrote:I haven't had much of a childhood either. Parents beating me up because I was acting weird because they didn't knew I was autistic until I was 11. I also never had a true friend. lets just say my childhood is a dark part of my life that I don't want to think about.

My childhood was more so-so, leaning on the negative side. It was last year that was complete Hell for me after my depression and social anxiety - which was strong to the point that I likely had selective mutism as well - peaked. Would rather not go into details right now though.

I like you, Zepto, you're very much like me. A whole lot, actually.

I can't complain about my parents in such a way. Something that I'm lucky to have is that my mother, despite her misunderstanding almost every single thing about me, does want us to be a good family together. We can have good conversation every now and then and our disagreements often don't go very deep. I just feel that sometimes that wanting to be a good family can go seriously overboard, because when she wants it so bad and we're clearly not shaping the image that's in her head she'll literally get angry at me for it. Even small things like my choice of clothing or music. Yes, she allows me to chose for myself, but it doesn't hold her back from constantly commenting on how she dislikes it. Her solutions to my problems are ridiculous (A while back she wanted me to join Scouting because she thought other "outcasts" liked that.) and almost every day I have to hear how I'll soon be meeting new friends and my girlfriend for life. And I'll keep hearing that, because I've told her she's bullshiting herself and that she needs to snap out of her Utopian ideas. But she doesn't, because to her the world is perfect and the only to blame is myself. I don't have any contacts outside the internet because I'm not willing to act like a different person for other people which she wants oh so much.

As for my dad, he doesn't really care, so he just leaves me alone. We're not angry or something we're just quiet. The only thing we may say to each other is him telling me dinner is ready and me saying I'll be there in a second. I just wish he stopped pretending like he cares about any of this like my mother.

And if anything is irritating then it's that every time they think my door is closed or I'm wearing headphones I can hear family discussion about all the things they think is wrong with me. Especially my brother whom has been his whole life trying to hold up his nonexistent reputation of how amazing he is and that he'll be this rich, well traveled man one day, yet just sits on his bed all day doing nothing and still acts like he has the right to say anything about me. But meh, soon he'll be forced to move out anyway so I'm just ignoring him now. I honestly wonder if I'll even see him anymore when he does.

My mom is a bit the same, except she is down to earth and not in utopia land like your mother.

Keane wrote: And if anything is irritating then it's that every time they think my door is closed or I'm wearing headphones I can hear family discussion about all the things they think is wrong with me. Especially my brother whom has been his whole life trying to hold up his nonexistent reputation of how amazing he is and that he'll be this rich, well traveled man one day, yet just sits on his bed all day doing nothing and still acts like he has the right to say anything about me. But meh, soon he'll be forced to move out anyway so I'm just ignoring him now. I honestly wonder if I'll even see him anymore when he does.

My parents starts talking about that often, mostly because my dad start complaining about me and my bro again. At least my little brother isn't doing that, he doesn't even know what he wants in life.

Adsolution wrote:I like you, Zepto, you're very much like me. A whole lot, actually.

Really? Well I'm happy that I'm in someway similar to someone here.

Keane wrote:I can't complain about my parents in such a way. Something that I'm lucky to have is that my mother, despite her misunderstanding almost every single thing about me, does want us to be a good family together. We can have good conversation every now and then and our disagreements often don't go very deep. I just feel that sometimes that wanting to be a good family can go seriously overboard, because when she wants it so bad and we're clearly not shaping the image that's in her head she'll literally get angry at me for it. Even small things like my choice of clothing or music. Yes, she allows me to chose for myself, but it doesn't hold her back from constantly commenting on how she dislikes it. Her solutions to my problems are ridiculous (A while back she wanted me to join Scouting because she thought other "outcasts" liked that.) and almost every day I have to hear how I'll soon be meeting new friends and my girlfriend for life. And I'll keep hearing that, because I've told her she's bullshiting herself and that she needs to snap out of her Utopian ideas. But she doesn't, because to her the world is perfect and the only to blame is myself. I don't have any contacts outside the internet because I'm not willing to act like a different person for other people which she wants oh so much.

As for my dad, he doesn't really care, so he just leaves me alone. We're not angry or something we're just quiet. The only thing we may say to each other is him telling me dinner is ready and me saying I'll be there in a second. I just wish he stopped pretending like he cares about any of this like my mother.

And if anything is irritating then it's that every time they think my door is closed or I'm wearing headphones I can hear family discussion about all the things they think is wrong with me. Especially my brother whom has been his whole life trying to hold up his nonexistent reputation of how amazing he is and that he'll be this rich, well traveled man one day, yet just sits on his bed all day doing nothing and still acts like he has the right to say anything about me. But meh, soon he'll be forced to move out anyway so I'm just ignoring him now. I honestly wonder if I'll even see him anymore when he does.

Actually, I can relate to most of that a lot. My mom also wants us to be a good family, but she takes it a bit overboard and points out all of our flaws and yet never our positives. My dad sometimes does that too, and I think even my sister has. No matter what I do there is no pleasing my mother, and it seems that situation is the same for my sister and even my dad a bit to an extent.

My dad is usually apathetic, but he'll often times be angry when he's not apathetic. My mom and him have made me feel like a worthless pile of shit coutless times and my sister has done just that more than a couple of times herself. All in all, it's not always bad though. My sister is much kinder to me than she is to our parents, my dad isn't always angry and when he is it's directed more at my mother, and I'm closest to my mother because we've had plenty of good discussions.

Something Bothering you?

yes, i just realized that i first joined this place over 10 years ago and now i feel old all of us originals from way back are like old men now.

waaahhh.

It's nice to see old members active.

nice to see this place still goin strong too after so long, even if i am old enough to be like half of you guys' granddads by now...or maybe just an older brother...still sad

waaahh again

I also miss older days (expecially 90's). Being kid was awesome.
Well, will you stay and hang out here daily? It would be cool to have old member active
Also, may I ask how old are you?

I have a constant yearning to live in either the '90s or '70s. Hell, I'd might even go as far to say that I'd rather live in the disaster of a decade that was the '80s rather than in this decade.

So you'd rather live in a decade where you didn't have the internet to put you back on your feet, talk to people about things and garner a great writing ability? Alright.

Adsolution wrote:So you'd rather live in a decade where you didn't have the internet to put you back on your feet, talk to people about things and garner a great writing ability? Alright.

Well, I can't honestly argue with that, but I just want to honestly live out those decades, to know what it's like. Maybe compare and contrast those decades with this current one as well.

I don't think curiosity is enough to justify living in a different decade, but time-travelling for a couple of weeks might be interesting.

Eh, good point. There's not much of a point in living in different decades anyhow since all of the music, movies, TV shows, and more that I love from previous decades are available to me via the Internet. But living out the '90s would still be a thrilling experience regardless.