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Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:03 pm
by neo
Yeah, post them all up! I am sure there is plenty. If you have had none, you can go on to explain why. (One example would be that your parents actually try to understand you and back down when they are wrong, etc)
Here's one at the top of my head:
Mom: 'You picked now to start eating'. Basically after this, it de-volves to an argument of YOU'RE STUPID! NO U!
I basically have good reason to eat when I eat. I'm spacing out the times in between meals. She cooks whenever and expects me to eat when she cooks, but doesn't understand this.
Sister: 'Why do you always defend so and so...': Had one like this last night. She was talking about some customer that came last minute, which annoyed her. She was right to be annoyed with her, yet I played Devil's advocate with "Well sometimes you have to think about it from the customer's perspective". She then explained that she came in and out many times before store closing hours. So she did have time.
Dad: 'Shut up!'. That's usually it. He doesn't really say comments like my mother, but whenever there is an argument, he tells me to shut up to 'stop' the argument. He just doesn't realize it'll happen eventually and he is simply making it worse. His next statement would be "I'm going to leave to PuertoRico!" but he doesn't, ever.
Lots of arguments with my ex-gf, about mafia usually. Lots of arguments in those games, but it's in-game stuff so I'm mostly basing this on stupid arguments over little things that SHOULDN'T happen.
Conclusion: My family at times always get butthurt with criticism. They mean well, but their butthurt turns them into children later and it pisses me off to the point of needing to do push-ups. Worst part is I'm the most critical one there. So arguments turn into lotsa butthurt. Even if I have a good reason for something, they don't really think about it, they still hold on to their feelings of annoyingness, like "oh he's eating NOW" so they just stick to the "no it's cuz you dumb" argument.
This will be an interesting thread. Post those silly arguments!
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:09 pm
by Master
I tend to keep to myself, and I know that can be a point of contention, I often get told off for my lack of sociability, or not getting out and doing extra stuff.
I tend to be rather passive when that happens, and fair enough, they do have a point there.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:11 pm
by MrBadGuy
I've never had a stupid argument.
That was a lie.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:38 pm
by spiraldoor
Master wrote:I tend to keep to myself, and I know that can be a point of contention, I often get told off for my lack of sociability, or not getting out and doing extra stuff.
I tend to be rather passive when that happens, and fair enough, they do have a point there.
I used to be like that. Your parents are right. Get out. Do things. Meet people. Learn how to interact with them. Make yourself the sort of person they want to be around. You can't get all of them, but if you get the right ones it will improve your emotional state drastically.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:42 pm
by neo
When it comes to that, it's better to have at least one friend than none. It's easier, because you don't have to do it with alot of people. Even the worlds most... alone... loner would want to keep contact with another human being. Maybe. That's what I think though, since I have mostly been a loner. If there is really a person out there that intends to NOT SEE ONE PERSON EVER IN THE WOODS, than that's them. If you feel the same way, than hey, I respect that.
I try to find good friends, not alot of friends.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:44 pm
by MrBadGuy
neo wrote:I try to find good friends, not alot of friends.
I have to say I agree with that philosophy. A small number of good friends, and a wider number of... acquaintances
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:50 pm
by Master
Yeah, I am trying to shed the complete introverted nature I have, I managed quite well helping out and explaining things during a college open day, I think. I also went out to a summer school all by my lonesome, and I was able to meld in somewhat.
I have a close friend, though I think it may soon be time for us to part ways, but I'll be sure to keep in contact with him, I owe him quite a bit for the years he's been my mate. As for the friend keeping factor, yeah, I tend to have a few close friends, then some outwards friends-acquaintances.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:53 pm
by MrBadGuy
I try to balance it out, some nights I'll go out to the pub or clubbing or whatever, and other nights I'll just keep for myself. As long as you spend enough time with others, and enough with yourself, you can avoid insanity. I used to spend far too much time by myself, then I went through a period where I never had a spare moment to think by myself. Now I have a happy medium
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 11:02 pm
by neo
When it comes to the social outlet, you can be social when it comes to anything. You can simply be social by joining some group that interests you, and wouldn't be like a party if that would make you uncomfortable or if you don't like meeting people like that. It'll make you feel better because you are being social in your own way.
Like how I joined the Martial arts group. I have met some friends from there, and meet others from school but sparingly. Oh yeah, I'm really taking advantage of school by getting more friends here.
If you are in college now, I would say try to meet friends if you don't have as much as... 3. It sucks to study at some place and not really be able to find friends there because they aren't really near your age or just not similar to you at all... I kind of had that experience with the college I got my Associates Degree. Now I'm doing this Hapkido thing 4 times a week and on Saturdays I chill with friends. Then when you are done with college... where else do you meet friends? I don't know.
I also do agree with balancing it out. You do need time for yourself. I hear that people that are introverted need to recharge their energy after spending it to socialize with friends. Maybe that's the case?
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 11:12 pm
by MrBadGuy
That's definitely the case, I'm an introvert and I need that recharging time!
Yeah man, it ain't hard to find friends if you're just talkative and not a dick, and make jokes etc.
When I changed school in 2010, I was in a really bad place psychologically, and wanted to leave as soon as I got there, but in less than a week everyone had changed my mind despite the fact I wasn't trying at all. I never really had a lot of close friends before that, but suddenly it wasn't an issue anymore. It's all about finding the right people, whether it's by luck (as it was with me) or by searching them out.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 11:12 pm
by Master
Hm, I should really be careful how I use the term "college," College deals with the equivalent of Grades 11 and 12 here. I've come to realise in other places, it's not the same, and refers to Uni level, my mistake.
As of now, I don't think I associate with any groups, nor do I think there are any groups at the moment I'd like to associate with. I can stick with a group of a few people, but not in interest, I'm just there really.
Yeah, I do feel quite tired and drained after a social outing, though I think it's not really much of a reason to justify my reluctance.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 11:18 pm
by Bradandez
Master wrote:I tend to keep to myself, and I know that can be a point of contention, I often get told off for my lack of sociability, or not getting out and doing extra stuff.
I tend to be rather passive when that happens, and fair enough, they do have a point there.
I get the similar argument from time to time. Most recent one was like a few weeks ago.
Re: Stupid arguments you have with family/friends/loved ones
Posted: Tue Dec 03, 2013 2:20 am
by MisterDark'sFanClub
Stupid arguments?
My mom and stepfather : "Dragon Ball Z is such a dumb kid's show."
Me: "RAAAAAAAAHHHH!!" *goes Super Saiyan 3 out of white hot fury*