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Re: Friendship, love et cetera

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Itooh wrote:"Clear, demonstrable answer" is a bit of a quick jumping.
Itooh wrote:Soul or not, we don't have the knowledge yet to claim that a full materialist answer is a "neutral" or "logical" answer.
Yes, we essentially do. Let's say love isn't a chemical reaction - we would not be able to induce or modify the way someone feels it with drugs, and certain instances of people receiving brain damage wouldn't be able to cause someone to lose that feeling towards someone. It clearly is rendered on the same plane as all other emotion with zero observed variance. This is essentially irrefutable proof towards it being a chemical reaction.
Itooh wrote:After all, love at first sight is still kind of a mystery.
That in no way supports the idea that it isn't a chemical reaction. We know the core physics behind how water currents function, but just because some water currents move in seemingly bizarre (but obviously not-random) pattern doesn't mean it might not function according to the laws of water current flow. It just means there is a physical phenomenon occurring that is definitely discoverable (it may be doing something odd, but nowhere near impossible), and will likely be discovered eventually.
Itooh wrote:We still know so little about the human brain, and what makes the "identity", we can't pretend that there is any proofs of the absence of soul, or love or whatever.
I never said there was no soul, I only said that love is 99.999... percent certainly a chemical reaction. Not being able to disprove an abstract concept someone made up has infinitely small pertinence to determining that it is indeed a chemical reaction. Infinitely small, because while an abstract concept holds water, it holds the same water to all other abstract concepts, and there are an infinite amount of abstract concepts.

And yes, when asking scientific questions ("Is love a chemical reaction?"), we can pretend there is no soul. It isn't worth taking into account because it effects the equation to an infinitely small degree.
Itooh wrote:It would be like refuting the roundness of the earth because we haven't seen any proof.
This is an absurd and hilarious false dichotomy; it works in my favor. The idea that the Earth is round is as clear as emotion being a conglomerate of chemical reactions. You being skeptical of love as a chemical reaction is like you being skeptical that the Earth isn't round because, for some reason, you don't think we have enough proof that the Earth is round.


Maybe you are just trying to promote open-mindedness, but the Carl Sagan quote "Do not be so open-minded that your brain falls out" works well here. :confus: incognito asked whether love is just a chemical reaction, to which the only sane or meaningful answer is "yes". I find it especially immoral to muddy-up someone's already confused mind with even more confused/vague/baseless answers.


Itooh wrote:And by the way, there is indeed a distinction between asexual and aromantic!
You are correct, I was wrong in saying that. I was skeptical of my own thoughts when I wrote, even though being aware of the evidence to support the idea. I don't know why I clung on.

While "just going with it" is a good way to view sexuality, many people have a desire to conform to something in some fashion. Asexuality can often be seen as rebellious ("breaking free" of human instinct - "unique" identities can also approach under the guise of being more truthful, which they aren't), and so there sometimes is a desire to be a part of it, and that can cause someone to suppress a true sexuality. This, to me, is not good, because it goes without saying that suppressing sexuality is very mentally damaging. The amount of self-identified asexuals on RPC is disproportionately large, and cannot possibly be accurate; if they don't seem mentally stable or mature enough to understand themselves properly, to me it isn't right to simply ignore this and tell everyone they're doing fine, because something is clearly wrong. Maybe they will figure it out themselves, but not everyone can do that without experiencing mental torture for a long time. I may have been wrong in saying exactly what I said before, but to me, incognito seems very unstable and without good agency, and asexuality is a very common, damaging go-to for people like him. To me it seems as if it could even propagate his depression, which could in turn propagate his lacking feelings of attraction (depression can severely impede or entirely incapacitate attraction), which could in turn propagate his depression again.

This is not directed specifically to incognito, as it happens with many people. Statistically speaking, it must be happening to at least a couple of people on RPC.
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Re: Friendship, love et cetera

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anaphasiia wrote:Incognito seems very unstable and without good agency, and asexuality is a very common, damaging go-to for people like him. To me it seems as if it could even propagate his depression, which could in turn propagate his lacking feelings of attraction (depression can severely impede or entirely incapacitate attraction), which could in turn propagate his depression again.
Wow wow wow, mentally unstable would mean that I could harm someone without being consious of my actions, the manifestation of my two selves began a long time before me ever feeling anything towards anybody and they were never hostile.
And also are you trying to imply asexuality produces unstable people ? Very edgy in my opinion.
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incognito wrote:Wow wow wow, mentally unstable would mean that I could harm someone without being consious of my actions, the manifestation of my two selves began a long time before me ever feeling anything towards anybody and they were never hostile.
That is not what mentally unstable means.
incognito wrote:And also are you trying to imply asexuality produces unstable people ? Very edgy in my opinion.
No, what I said was closer to the opposite: Some unstable/depressed people can gravitate towards thinking they are asexual.
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I wasn't depressive all my life.
And also I'm not right now, well I was, some moments I am not always, but by that I mean being ace wasn't a decision of some sort, It is my nature, I was never sexually attracted by anybody.
For some it is natural for some it is a choice.
Just because 98% of the meatbags of that planet enjoys and makes of sex the fucking center of their life I'm not gonna do the same just to follow.
And also I start to see that your point of view is quite Freudesque, because you're bringing everything to sexuality.
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Agreed with Ana. I know so many people who say they're "asexual" yet admit to falling in love at one point or being sexually attracted to something. It's like this idea of not liking something most of the world does like makes people feel, I dunno, empowering? They'll swear up and down "I've never liked anyone like that in my life" yet majority at some point has, just doesn't want to admit. Either that or they're too lonely or socially awkward to really experience that feeling. It's strange to me how people who make these claims act as if falling in love or having just slight feelings for someone is a sense of defeat. I'm not saying asexuality doesn't exist, of course it does. But people seem to take that concept and claim it as if "this is so me" when most of the time this isn't the case.
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I think part of it's time and maturity. I say this because in the past few months I've begun to notice a growth in my sexuality, even though I never took any steps toward changing it. And while 18's a bit late to start feeling attracted to someone, there isn't any point in complaining (even if I am a bit social awkward :fou2: :wink: ).
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Indeed, I agree with that statement. I use to also claim myself to be asexual due to the fact that I viewed the act of conforming to any type of love in any sense as a sign of weakness, but as I grew older I noticed that clearly wasn't true.
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Yeah I'm with you on that one, especially nowadays I feel like you've got this phenomenon of people applying certain labels to themselves more for the sake of just having the label - and going out of their way to convince themselves it's real. I've noticed the same thing with social anxiety, a lot of people apparently find appeal to calling themselves socially inept because it gives them this edge of being the "silent but not inside" person and an interesting way to differentiate yourself from the crowd - aka hipstery bullshit.

I guess it's just a teen thing to do, but I really don't endorse going around applying whatever label vaguely applies to you and then showing off with it, because it makes the people to whom said label actually applies just feel more alienated and more like they need to prove themselves tor receive validation.
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Well, to give a contribution...

It is incredible how strong are the feels and they make do I just did that tonight :
https://soundcloud.com/incognito-anonym ... -unity-n-1
It is dedicated to someone I carry in my heart.
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I think Adsolution is good friend to me.
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Ain't he more for yo ?
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anaphasiia wrote:[...]Incognito seems very unstable[...]
I just remembered desu and I'd like ya to elaborate a little about that. If needed I can answer questions about my mental health.
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Wow, what an in-depth elaboration!
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Sorry but it seems that I don't understand.
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Bump.

I thought about someone last night that I had a chance for something special if only I was older. The short summer fling that almost was.

It all started on a summer night in August of 2014. I was going with several of my friends to a road trip to the Carolina states. In South Carolina we were going to an indoor trampoline park, and in North Carolina we were going to do tubing and whitewater rafting.

So as the night sky turned to day, we arrived at the first destination. We were having a good time in that trampoline park, we even played a game of dodgeball. But the fun had just begun. We all took a selfie later on, but unbeknownst to us, there were three girls behind us. We found out and I yelled photobombing and one of the girls (the hottest one), joked at me by saying "Photobombing? What's photobombing?" We laughed and then I started a conversation with her and the two other girls. But I was more focused on the blonde.

So we were hitting it off. I remember one moment after I told her my name she had body language that suggested flirting. Unfortunately I was 14, and I didn't know much about that subject. But we went on and had some fun around that park. It was awesome. I was feeling like I was on top of the world.

But it all came crashing down when the moment of truth came. I revealed my age and she was immediately turned off. She was 18. I must've fooled her 'cause I had a mustache back then. I was so close to perhaps a goodbye kiss or maybe even more.

I'm 17 now, almost 3 years since that summer day. I wonder if it would've turned out different if I was 17 then.
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Given that she was turned off by your age, it would only make sense that things would've gone farther, and maybe with those three extra years of maturity you've garnered since then, things would've gone even better. Alternatively, given the fact an eighteen and a fourteen-year-old were hitting it off, maybe she wasn't very mature in the first place and the current you would've been the one turned off.
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Yeah, as I continue to remember, she was pretty eccentric when I was around her. It didn't really matter much at that time, but now, it's not to my taste. She was nice and all, but she definitely was a little immature at times.
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newnew thread bump. Discuss more friends and love.
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Friendship and love is nothing more than two or more people taking advantages of each other, but on a mutual level,.

You need some help and advise, youll look for someone to take advantage to your own good.
You need to borrow some money or something, youll look for someone to take advantage to your own good.
You wanna hang out and spend some time ask your friend, youll look for someone to take advantage to your own good.
You have that special need, youll look for someone to form a bond who other wants the same, call him/her your significant other, and you both take advantages of each other.

The people who you took advantage from are most likely also going to want to take advantage from you or someone else.

That's the fundament of what we call "friendship". The human is a social being. They are always dependent on each other.
But also humans are selfish and jealous beings, they also want everything in advantage to them.
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