Something Bothering you?/Daily Doldrums

[neo]

I'm not trolling though. I'm actually roleplaying, I even made a character. I was going to hope for an argument. It didn't come up though.

[Reese Riverson]

I'm not trolling though. I'm actually roleplaying, I even made a character. I was going to hope for an argument. It didn't come up though.

Then why are you afraid of being 'found out' if you aren't going to argue?

[Xenon]

Hey. I'm doing alright, yourself Spaceray? I'm sorry to hear about your close family friend passing away. Also I feel ya on the car repairs, I also had to spend quite alot of moolah on my mother's van, which STOPPED WORKING OVER THE INTERSTATE HIGHWAY. So, I live in Pennsylvania. It was left in a shop in NJ. It was annoying as shit. I didn't mean to post this as something that's bothering me. Just want to say, that it is what it is. Simply go through with it, and move on. Because, you are still living regardless of it being fixed or not. Eventually, you'll forget it and sift back into living happily, like me. Try your best to stay as stress free as possible.

Back at ya, I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. The last thing you said - that's a pretty good life attitude to take. I'm guessing it's paid off over the years, as I seem to recall you were in dire straits last time we spoke.

[neo]

I'm not trolling though. I'm actually roleplaying, I even made a character. I was going to hope for an argument. It didn't come up though.

Then why are you afraid of being 'found out' if you aren't going to argue?

Just because of what I said here on the forums. That's all. Makes me sound like a dick.

Hey. I'm doing alright, yourself Spaceray? I'm sorry to hear about your close family friend passing away. Also I feel ya on the car repairs, I also had to spend quite alot of moolah on my mother's van, which STOPPED WORKING OVER THE INTERSTATE HIGHWAY. So, I live in Pennsylvania. It was left in a shop in NJ. It was annoying as shit. I didn't mean to post this as something that's bothering me. Just want to say, that it is what it is. Simply go through with it, and move on. Because, you are still living regardless of it being fixed or not. Eventually, you'll forget it and sift back into living happily, like me. Try your best to stay as stress free as possible.

Back at ya, I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. The last thing you said - that's a pretty good life attitude to take. I'm guessing it's paid off over the years, as I seem to recall you were in dire straits last time we spoke.

Yeah, thanks man. It is, I realized it from certain experiences, you know. For example, getting mad at myself when I miss an alarm clock. It happened, so being hard on myself would only make it worse. After that, I would simply let it be. I will say, there can be a negative result to this mindset as well. You can be so indifferent, that you would let it all go without a care and still be happy. So I say, be indifferent, try to be as stress free as possible, but do try to reflect on your situation camly afterwards, to make sure you fix that mistake before it happens again. Don't let it slip entirely, because that is when you'll feel alot worse, and you'd deserve some self-disappointment at that point. (This is failing a whole semester of classes worthy)

I don't remember what happened last time, but I'll assume it had something to do with my parents again. This time around, I joined a Fraternity, and it thinned relationships between me and my family even more a bit. It's helped me learn more about life a bit too, but yeah. I'm dealing with more stuff due to it now.

[Xenon]

That's awesome news and great advice too. Yeah, it was about your family, specifically your mother if memory serves me well. I have to say, with particular regard to your first paragraph, I'm the irritating opposite of that kind of person. See, I cannot be blamed for any of my problems. My troubles are imposed on me by some mysterious and vindictive third party. It's probably a far more psychologically dangerous attitude to have, but at least I s'pose I haven't suffered the self-hate and knocking of confidence as a result. I'm so glad you've recovered from that position!

[NyaNyaLily]

*sigh*
You know, people in schoolbusses are douchebags sometimes. I just came out of the bus and I'm home now but the people behind me and my little brother were last graders. So they were playing like this rap music and after sometime they started to hold the music box behind our ears. And then they decided to put up a song they used to swear at me, this were some of the lyrics: "you're a little b*tch! I don't give a sh*t!" Luckily it was just before the bus stop and I just didn't react to it because it helps most of the time but it annoying. And then comes the part that I was sitting on a high seat in the bus so they did it to make fun of me.

[Thebananacrafter!]

*sigh*
You know, people in schoolbusses are douchebags sometimes. I just came out of the bus and I'm home now but the people behind me and my little brother were last graders. So they were playing like this rap music and after sometime they started to hold the music box behind our ears. And then they decided to put up a song they used to swear at me, this were some of the lyrics: "you're a little b*tch! I don't give a sh*t!" Luckily it was just before the bus stop and I just didn't react to it because it helps most of the time but it annoying. And then comes the part that I was sitting on a high seat in the bus so they did it to make fun of me.

something similar happened to me when i was 11 in school. Those kids kept saying hi non stop it wasnt in a nice manner it was in a rude manner. Hope they stop soon CHRdutch!

[NyaNyaLily]

*sigh*
You know, people in schoolbusses are douchebags sometimes. I just came out of the bus and I'm home now but the people behind me and my little brother were last graders. So they were playing like this rap music and after sometime they started to hold the music box behind our ears. And then they decided to put up a song they used to swear at me, this were some of the lyrics: "you're a little b*tch! I don't give a sh*t!" Luckily it was just before the bus stop and I just didn't react to it because it helps most of the time but it annoying. And then comes the part that I was sitting on a high seat in the bus so they did it to make fun of me.

something similar happened to me when i was 11 in school. Those kids kept saying hi non stop it wasnt in a nice manner it was in a rude manner. Hope they stop soon CHRdutch!

Well it's just about where I was sitting so if I don't sit in the back like most of the time I should be OK C:

[neo]

Sorry to hear that happened man. I would take this as a learning experience though. Use these opportunities to stand up to them. Now I just try to ignore highschool kids trying to fight, since I'm older, but you should take this chance to instill some confidence and bravery in yourself. Use this chance to grow. If you keep ignoring it, it'll simply keep coming to you, since you didn't even say a thing.

[iHeckler9]

I'm worried that certain things I want to try might end up causing me to become addicted to them. (I don't mean smoking or drinking or other drugs, by the way.) I'm worried that if I'm left exposed to these things for too long I'll start craving them and wanting to try them more.

[GrandKittymus]

People I'm around won't stop cussing in my face when I'm trying to get work done. It's ridiculous. And I'm too much of a wuss to tell 'em to stop too.

[Earth Gwee]

Once again, I've been becoming more aware of my mortality than I normally am. More than once this semester I've brought myself to tears thinking about my own eventual death. The fact that my consciousness will no longer exist is what scares me the most, along with the thought of growing too old to function on my own. I know it happens to literally everyone. Life can't go on without death. But I love my own life and self-awareness too much, and dealing with so much stress from trying to manage my school schedule doesn't help that anxiety. It also doesn't help that our next-door neighbor recently passed away from a heart attack, leaving his 2-year-old son behind. I can't imagine being in that much pain only to suddenly die. It scares me so much despite knowing nothing can be done about it. I've had a couple of days where I feel slightly disconnected from the world around me because of this. Not knowing where my consciousness will go when the time comes, how much more will happen without me, and what I'll leave behind scares me the most about death. I like to think that whatever energy is left over somehow makes its way to the organisms that help decompose the corpse, and I suppose that is true in a way, but still, the fact that I will no longer exist one day terrifies me. It's so hard to imagine that my consciousness will fizzle out like a flame for good. I hate thinking about it in this way. I hate scaring myself like this. I keep trying to tell myself it'll be okay, but it doesn't work for very long. I'm hoping that once I finish this semester up I'll move away from that negativity. I'd rather live blissfully and make the most of my time here than bring myself down about something beyond my control that won't happen to me for a very long time.

[neo]

I think you must start to accept that you will one day die. Maybe that might help you move on with your life, and not be worried about that eventual life. To me, it is what it is. I say, live your life to the fullest. If you aren't, make strides to make it that way. Think of your Spiritual, Career, Family, Financial, Social, Physical, Mental. Reflect on those seven pieces and balance them. Spiritually, I'm very interested in Daoism. Doesn't have much to do with god, but more with nature and pro-verbs, and wisdom. Truly, we do not know what happens after death. Yet, why do we need to know? If you were content with your life, you wouldn't be worrying about what happens after. Have a great life, or strive for it. Then worry about that. I live life as if it's the only life I will ever have, and I live in the moment.

[Rayfist]

I don't think it's inevitable death you should be afraid of, rather death at a young age, which is why, like Neo said, you should live your life to the fullest. We all know death will eventually strike us but it isn't something to fear I think, which is why we need to make the best out of every moment I believe.

I've recently been bothered by college, I have a lot of finals coming up and I legitimately feel like I'm going to puke. What's worse is shortly a few days after I have to go to two summer classes for 6 hours. What made this situation worse is when few of my professors told me "Oh you're taking two summer classes?" with the tone of "Oh that REALLY sucks." It makes me worried.

I'm feeling really fucked over lately, my new GPU has a massive plague of artifacting issues, and my new phone I recieved has a defective battery. Top that all off with Majoras Mask and Mario Party 2 being stolen from me, I'm quite upset lately. I feel like I've just been fucked over $200, my only choice is to RMA it, but I really wanna invest in a new GTX 970, so sick of the issues i've had with my r9 280x

[Bradandez]

I've been trying to ask my crush out, but I've been stalling myself. It's always me taking a step forward and two steps back. I always feel that my timing is bad and give myself more time, but I need to ask her out this month because hopefully I take her to this nice place. It's complicated to state it right now. I just don't know how to do this.

[Jewish Candy]

I feel bad posting here without responding to previous doldrums, but I literally have nothing to say other than offer my sympathy to you guys.

In case you missed my ceaseless complaining in pluses/minues, our bathroom is being renovated and boy has it been a nightmare. I'm in the house most of the day as before I've fainted I can't really go out, so I'm the one that mainly interacts with the workmen. The head guy... well, he put his hands on me today. And I desperately try to rationalise it with his own explanation, that he was moving me out the way to get through, but there was no need to touch my waist in that way to do that. There was no need to touch me at all. I was already out the way. He's been iffy for a while, made a good number of creepy comments that weren't quite serious enough to report, not quite, so part of me suspected something like this might happen. I'd hoped that it wouldn't. I doubt there's malevolence involved, and frankly I don't care - it's almost worse if there isn't, since it means he doesn't see the problem with that kind of behaviour.

I'm dreading next week. I've been spending more time with the neighbour children to try and avoid him as much as possible. I just want him gone and out of my house and away from my plumbing. In both senses of the word.

[Rayfist]

The head guy... well, he put his hands on me today.

That's borderline creepy. I mean you are the one paying for this guy to work on this, right? Tell him not to do that honestly, he really has no right in doing that. Do you live by your lonesome or with parents? I remember I've had to interact with people working on my house while my dad was out for work (it was really awkward since I had no idea about the situation or anything.)

[Jewish Candy]

I live with my parents - my sister's out studying, my dad goes to work and my mum is effectively a part time carer for a number of people, so I have to be on top of everything going on with the work. I've mostly got over that awkward stage, out of necessity I suppose.

Yeah, it's straight-up creepy and I really should have words with him. In all honesty I'm scared to, I don't know if I'll have the energy to deal with... him, with the way he grins and dismisses and makes excuses for himself. Hopefully he'd apologise, but I suspect he'd gaslight and tell me to lighten up. I worry he'd see it as an invitation to try something else.

[incognito]

The head guy... well, he put his hands on me today.

That's borderline creepy. I mean you are the one paying for this guy to work on this, right? Tell him not to do that honestly, he really has no right in doing that. Do you live by your lonesome or with parents? I remember I've had to interact with people working on my house while my dad was out for work (it was really awkward since I had no idea about the situation or anything.)

Hex, I have to make a comment about that.

It looks like the beginning of a horror movie, (or bad seventies porn(I suppose )) but still, when I read that I think about the psycho movie.

Nah seriously, it might be the time to acquire a self defense kit, and a jamming device ( who knows what he might put in your bathroom)

[Adsolution]

Would it be at all productive to tell your parents about it? I'm not sure what they'd even be able to do - intervening, like you said, could end up causing more trouble. In most cases, I think it's reasonable to assume his type won't get aggressive. They're pussies who back off the moment a threat arises; they just exploit naïvety, and I think they often mistake shyness for it. Either that or they think their victim is shy enough to not do anything about it, and they know that you know they're getting what they want with zero repercussions.

I'm not sure how you assert yourself in person in general, but if I were in your shoes, I would probably move aggressively and with confidence (but not agitatedly - don't pretend he doesn't exist, that's a sign of weakness). If he sees himself as some alpha male and you don't want to be taken advantage of, you need to be that 'alpha male'. Make eye contact. Make him feel like he's being watched - he's the one on your turf after all. Unclear psychological warfare is so effective because it instills a sense of unknowing, and the last thing a creeper would ever attempt is venturing into unknown territory.

If he's crazy and things turn a little more physical, well, I think the answer is a lot more clear-cut.

Having people touch you like that is horrible and dehumanising, and almost solely due to what the offender is getting out of it. The best thing you can do is make the touching lose its meaning, even if it means turning that one successful memory he has that he takes pride in of placing his hands on your waist into a one that he wishes he could forget.

Once again, I've been becoming more aware of my mortality than I normally am. More than once this semester I've brought myself to tears thinking about my own eventual death. The fact that my consciousness will no longer exist is what scares me the most, along with the thought of growing too old to function on my own. I know it happens to literally everyone. Life can't go on without death. But I love my own life and self-awareness too much, and dealing with so much stress from trying to manage my school schedule doesn't help that anxiety. It also doesn't help that our next-door neighbor recently passed away from a heart attack, leaving his 2-year-old son behind. I can't imagine being in that much pain only to suddenly die. It scares me so much despite knowing nothing can be done about it. I've had a couple of days where I feel slightly disconnected from the world around me because of this. Not knowing where my consciousness will go when the time comes, how much more will happen without me, and what I'll leave behind scares me the most about death. I like to think that whatever energy is left over somehow makes its way to the organisms that help decompose the corpse, and I suppose that is true in a way, but still, the fact that I will no longer exist one day terrifies me. It's so hard to imagine that my consciousness will fizzle out like a flame for good. I hate thinking about it in this way. I hate scaring myself like this. I keep trying to tell myself it'll be okay, but it doesn't work for very long. I'm hoping that once I finish this semester up I'll move away from that negativity. I'd rather live blissfully and make the most of my time here than bring myself down about something beyond my control that won't happen to me for a very long time.

I agree one-hundred percent, as I feel the exact same way. Death, especially inevitable death, is one of the most rational things you can fear, because it's something you have no control over. You can't say no to it, and absolutely nothing you do, no ritual you perform can prolong your life - at least not indefinitely, or very much at all for that matter.

As a major advocate of science's quest for combating the effects of aging, immortality being something I believe we'll be able to achieve at some point, accepting inevitable death as a fact is like giving a big 'fuck you' to any of our offspring who won't be able to live forever alongside their peers for whatever reason. Talk about not wishing for something better. Just because we can't live forever now doesn't mean that those of us who take issue with it shouldn't fear it. It isn't fair - some people have ideas and plans that would take far longer than a human life to see through, and the best we can do at the moment is, before our skills and talents dissolve alongside our bodies, try and pass on our knowledge so others with similar talents can re-learn those skills more efficiently and get a bit further each time. Sure, it technically works, but it's a really shitty and inefficient way of doing things, not to mention it entails dying.

I believe one of humanity's greatest tragic heroes would be someone who threw away all their other passions and aspirations in favour of trying to find the cure for aging, knowing that it's unlikely they'll even find it themselves, but that they'll have pushed us one step closer so we can prevent a generation sooner from dying.