Something Bothering you?/Daily Doldrums

[Jewish Candy]

He's gone. He finished up today. Slowly, my body is starting to ease up - I didn't realise quite how tense I'd become. Still a bit twitchy, but that will go with time.

I did talk to him yesterday, while the other builder was there. He greeted me with an "ooh, hello~" and completely inappropriate comment about how good I looked, so that was my cue. After realising I wouldn't relent he 'apologised' (with an obsequient smile of course), but I haven't a clue if he'll improve the next time his clients include a young woman. The bathroom at least looks lovely, we'll be able to use it from tomorrow evening.

I'm going to make myself some of my special tea, which I was saving for after this was over lest it be tainted. Make a proper ritual of it. Sit on the floor with my babies in the blissful silence and just deflate.

[Imco]

Ahh! Glad work is finished! At least you can try to relax with you babies now.
Wait... did you say tea?

[Xenon]

I'm also glad it's cleared up. That doldrum made for pretty harrowing reading. I wanted to write a response a few days ago but, speaking from the position of a male, I found it too hard to come up with anything meaningful.

Now I have an issue of my own. I'm having real difficulty typing, at times (such as now in writing this post). But it's not because I'm demented. My iPad is slowly packing up. I broke the glass months ago and have since not replaced it, which has obviously affected the touchscreen and it's becoming increasingly unresponsive. If there are any techies here with advice, I'm all ears.

[technology4617]

He greeted me with an "ooh, hello~" and completely inappropriate comment about how good I looked

Fucking smooth.



Good to hear he's gone, though.

[Snagglebee]

Fekin Deutsche Bahn and with their stuped strikes -.-
Come on! Why exactly on the day I return to fuken taxland...

[NyaNyaLily]

Fekin Deutsche Bahn and with their stuped strikes -.-
Come on! Why exactly on the day I return to fuken taxland...

I heard it on the radio :')

[Hoozang]

I did talk to him yesterday, while the other builder was there. He greeted me with an "ooh, hello~" and completely inappropriate comment about how good I look

Dammit, I hate when people make suggestive messages like "hey babe" and "dang I'd bang you".
Just cut it out. It's awkard.

Don't worry Mom, we gotcha' covered.

[Jewish Candy]

Y'all have been so sweet about this. Thanks so much guys.

[Hoozang]

No problem! Also when I'm gonna get my gift?

mom new col o dooty

[NyaNyaLily]

Did they already release BO3!? O_o
I have never been a fan of COD though xD. But seriously how much black ops' are they going to release?

[Hoozang]

Black Ops 3 is not released yet, doofus!
Now, we both need to transfer this conversation somewhere else.

[Imco]

Bravo, really. Bravo! They succeeded. Urgh...

Welp, I guess this is goodbye. Maybe I'll return someday with another account, but as of right now, the bullies have won. They are probably exstatic about it, in fact their hunt is probably not over (they hacked me once, they'll probably do it again).

I had a great time with you guys, except three notable exceptions.

EDIT : Oh, and you can't delete your account either. That's fine, I guess.

[spiraldoor]

Oh boy, this is a good one.

Last night one of my best friends told me that another of my best friends (whom he doesn't know) "tried to force himself" on a girl who was apparently friends with all three of us (though he didn't tell me who the girl was). Girl cut all contact with friend 2, then told the whole story to friend 1. He didn't press her for details, so neither of us knows what actually physically happened.

Baffled as to what I should do. I know the guy in question very well and he's absolutely lovely, if a bit awkward and weird. I find it difficult to imagine him making a move on a girl at all actually. I figured she must have misinterpreted or exaggerated what he did, but then, I'd normally be disgusted with anyone trivialising a rape attempt or making anything resembling a victim-blaming defence. I wonder if this makes me a vector for rape culture.

[Ambidextroid]

My mum's getting a painful back and she's going through some physical post-period phase, it hurts really badly apparently, and it's keeping her awake at night, on top of the fact that she's suffering from depression and her father died only a few years ago, adding to the depression.
Shit sucks.

[Adsolution]

Oh boy, this is a good one.

Last night one of my best friends told me that another of my best friends (whom he doesn't know) "tried to force himself" on a girl who was apparently friends with all three of us (though he didn't tell me who the girl was). Girl cut all contact with friend 2, then told the whole story to friend 1. He didn't press her for details, so neither of us knows what actually physically happened.

Baffled as to what I should do. I know the guy in question very well and he's absolutely lovely, if a bit awkward and weird. I find it difficult to imagine him making a move on a girl at all actually. I figured she must have misinterpreted or exaggerated what he did, but then, I'd normally be disgusted with anyone trivialising a rape attempt or making anything resembling a victim-blaming defence. I wonder if this makes me a vector for rape culture.

Is he the kind of person to ever get really drunk? It's moreorless self-explanitory, but awkward people are usually the most dramatically transformed by the loss of social inhibition.

As for victim blaming, while I think it's incredibly uncommon to be able to blame a victim, it's possible for signals to be so misleading or intentionally provocative to the point where it's unclear. Say someone runs up to a rapist, tears off their clothes, throws themselves on them and says "rape me!" as a form of protest.

While victim blaming is a strange thing, one thing you can definitely question is the stupidity/insolence of a victim, assuming they're not totally ignorant. It by no means acts as a defense for the assailant, but if the victim puts themselves in a position to get what they're probably expecting despite not wanting it, I will likely have a lot less sympathy for them.

[Rayfist]

edit: It's just now I realized maybe I wasn't too fond of expressing it but I'm glad Keane heard me out, thanks!

[Keane]

Oy, no need justify typing it all out here, I've had plenty nights with no one to talk to and it's probably the best place to write it out without feeling judged by anyone who sees it.

It's an excellent way to be remembered and something I think we should all strive for in one way or another: To have left someone feeling like we meant something to them, and improved them through the relationship we had. Not only that, but you're incredibly lucky to have had someone in your life who's done exactly that for you, and as you're making clear yourself, it'll definitely play a role in your personal growth.

And in my opinion, personal growth in one of the best ways. I'm too familiar with the hollow feeling of having emotions build up but just not releasing them. It's a relief to be able to get it out, and even though it might sting for a while, eventually that relief will come over the situation as a whole, and at that point it'll just turn into feeling proud, both because you're keeping her memory in such a positive light, and because you've played a role in her life too. I hope I'm not coming across too dramatic, but, I think it's never a bad idea to place some extra emphasis on the good things. My condolences, Rayf.

[Hoozang]

Rest in peace, Poppy.

Poppy was a kitty my family had recently. We adopted her because we had another cat before Poppy and our main cat, Spots, who didn't leave the world, but instead moved on another house. We adopted Apollo, who was a boy kitten, not a little baby, but a small, but kinda big cat. He left like Spots did. Then we adopted, not really adopt but it's the house's cat, Biscuit, which is a really big cat. And then, Poppy. We adopted her in a trip to the neighbour's house because my mother said Biscuit was not from this house, Biscuit travelled around the neighbourhood. And then, when we asked my neighbour, he said that we were right. He then offered us 3 little cats, a black one, Poppy, and another one which I can't remember the colour of his fur. We were happy with Poppy. She scratched our hands, but we still loved her. And then, one day, my dad was on trip leaving home, in which when he was getting dressed up, he saw poop all around the house, and then Poppy. I am not going to lie on this part, and I love my dad and I know that he was an arrogant for not telling my mother, but well, yeah. He saw Poppy on the ground, looking like dead. But she wasn't. Then my dad left home to his trip. Suddenly, my mother woke up, and saw all the poop around the house. And then Poppy. She called the husband of her sister (I know it's brother in law, but I'm not sure) and then went in a trip to the vet. Well, she was okay after that. She was fine, like always.

Then after that she was in vet like 3 times in a row counting this time.

And then, the last moments of her life.

I was with my father's MacBook, browsing around the internet. Then I heard cat screams. Guess what.

She was convulsionating/seizure. Whatever. I don't care anymore.

My mother and my father instantly heard this and then my mother called the vet in an urgency. They then went to the vet, for the fourth time.
She ordered to me and my sister to go to bed. Moments later, as usual I tried to stay calm with the MacBook. She then passed through the door, crying, and told me the notice that she, died.

Rest in peace, Poppy. We all lament your passing. In your short existance on Earth, we all loved and cared about you. My parents spent a lot of money on you, but they didn't care.

[NyaNyaLily]

My condolences Rayfist and Hoozang

[incognito]

Sorry for ya hoozang, my dog died last year, so I know how you feel.