+ Itch has been fairly tolerable
- Be that as it may, the skin condition is spreading, there's only patches of normal skin on my arms now, the rest is inflamed red-brown.
- I'm not going to be seen by a hospital specialist until October, which means I'll be in Uni with this condition
– I’m pissed off again
– Fuck my strict dad, he still doesn’t allow me to swear – I’m eighteen for God’s sake, you should really loosen up your fucking useless so-called rules!
+ Thankfully I can swear here
- You should not swear here, that's a bad-language brainwash.
There’s no doubt that swearing is widespread. In fact, some youths would say that if they could have a dollar for every vulgar word they heard at school, they’d never have to work and their parents could retire. “In casual conversation,” says 15-year-old Eve, “my schoolmates seem to swear several times in each sentence. When you hear that kind of talk all day, it’s hard to keep from joining the crowd.”
Are you, like Eve, surrounded by swearing? Have you picked up the habit yourself?* If so, take a moment to examine just what motivates you to swear. Once you identify that, you’ll be in a better position to eliminate the habit.
With this in mind, try answering the following questions.
In most cases, why do you swear?
□ To express anger or frustration
□ To get attention
□ To fit in with peers
□ To appear tough
□ To challenge authority
□ Other ․․․․․
In what circumstance are you most inclined to swear?
□ At school
□ At work
□ In e-mails, instant messages, or text messages
□ When by myself
How do you excuse your swearing?
□ Peers do it
□ Parents do it
□ Teachers do it
□ Entertainment is saturated with it
□ It’s no big deal—they’re just words
□ I only swear around people who aren’t bothered by it
□ Other ․․․․․
Why conquer this habit at all? Is swearing really that bad? Consider the following.
They’re not just words. Jesus said: “Your words show what is in your heart.” (Luke 6:45, Contemporary English Version) Note that what we say doesn’t simply reflect the type of person we would like to be—it reflects the type of person we already are. Even if you use bad language simply because others do it, copying their example reveals that you “follow after the crowd” and that you’re not your own person.—Exodus 23:2.
But that’s not all. Language expert James V. O’Connor says: “People who swear often tend to be disagreeable, critical, cynical, angry, argumentative, and unhappy complainers.” For example, those who curse whenever something goes wrong reflect the belief that everything must always go right. It’s as if they just can’t handle mistakes. On the other hand, O’Connor notes, those who don’t swear “are often calm, . . . mature people who [can] deal with daily annoyances.” Which type of person would you rather be?
Swearing hurts your reputation. Like most youths, you probably care about your appearance. You want to make a good impression. But did you know that how you speak can have a greater impact on others than how you look? The fact is, your speech can determine such things as
▪ Whom you will attract as friends.
▪ Whether you will be hired for a particular job or not.
▪ The amount of respect you will receive.
It’s true—often the initial impression people form of us based on our appearance quickly fades when we start talking. Says O’Connor: “You have no way of knowing how many opportunities to make a new friend you might have squelched, or how often you alienated someone or lost a degree of respect through your lackadaisical use of foul language.” The lesson? If your speech is vulgar, you’re only hurting yourself.
Swearing shows disrespect for the Creator of speech. Suppose you gave your friend—as a gift—a shirt or a blouse. How would you feel if you saw your friend using that garment as a rag or a doormat? Think of how our Creator feels, then, when we misuse the gift of speech. Little wonder that God’s Word states: “Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness.”—Ephesians 4:31.
As you can see, there’s good reason to stop swearing. If it’s become a deeply ingrained habit, though, how can you overcome it?
First: See the need to change. You likely won’t stop swearing until you understand how you will benefit from altering your speech. Which factors below would motivate you to stop swearing?
□ Pleasing the Creator of speech
□ Gaining greater respect from others
□ Expanding my vocabulary
□ Bettering myself as a person
Second: Figure out what’s behind the swearing. Melanie says: “Swearing made me feel tougher in a way. I didn’t want people pushing me around. I wanted to have the upper hand, to tell people off the way all my friends did.”
What about you? Understanding why you swear is a key to determining how you will address the problem. For example, if you swear just because everyone else does it, you need to learn to build confidence in your own strengths. Taking proper pride in being your own person is a vital part of growing up—and a big help in eliminating the habit of swearing.
Third: Find alternate ways of expressing yourself. It’s not just a matter of biting your tongue. Conquering the bad-language habit involves putting on “the new personality.” (Ephesians 4:22-24) This will help you to gain greater self-control and self-respect—as well as respect for others.
The following scriptures will help you to put on—and keep on—the new personality.
Colossians 3:2: “Keep your minds fixed on the things above.”
Application: Train your mind to value things that are upright. Your thoughts influence the way you speak.
Proverbs 13:20: “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.”
Application: The language used by your associates can rub off on you.
Psalm 19:14: “Let the sayings of my mouth and the meditation of my heart become pleasurable before you, O Jehovah.”
Application: Jehovah notices how we use the gift of speech.
– I haven't posted in this topic in ages.
+ I'm doing so now!
± I've essentially overcome my aversion to Python, as a matter of necessity…
+ I've started dabbling in interfacing Python code with LibreOffice.
– I'm doing so as part of a massive project dreamed up today by myself and one of my colleagues, with no idea whether or not I'll get it finished in the six or so weeks remaining in my internship.
+ At least I think all the other projects are coming to timely ends.
+ As a step towards bringing VR to the company I work at, I spoke to the head of a VR innovation company in Vancouver and got to try out the HTC Vive - holy FUCK, I had high hopes, and this thing blew my fucking mind. I was instantly 100% convinced I was in the virtual world, and the remotes/their interactivity is outstanding, as is the entirely lag-free transformation of the headset itself. The developers of this thing are geniuses.
+ The head guy thought my architectural visualisation landscape demo in CryEngine was fantastic.
+ The boss' son took us out for an expensive business lunch after.
+ Had a blast tonight with friends at the bar, then walking around the quay. We'll be back next Tuesday for karaoke night!
+ There I reunited with my friend Ashley from grade 7, and after ten years, it's like nothing's changed - it's like finding a part of yourself you'd lost for so long!
+ Going to visit Rayfist next week.
+ This might be one of the best days I've ever had in my life.
+ I see everything goes for the better for Adsolution.
+ Always refreshing to see someone having a good time.
+ I had a good night, didn't slept much, but at least not feeling it.
+ Converted someone to Linux.
- Can't find the energy to finish my projects.
- I'm getting the impression this course is teaching literally nothing I'm not going to be retaught when I'm taking the actual lessons and most of it doesn't even seem relevant for the final exam, which makes me kind of reluctant to keep working on it.
Adsolution wrote:+ This might be one of the best days I've ever had in my life.
+ Seeing friend Adsolution in a good mood warms my big heart
+/- It's raining back here at the house. And my game is on in 30 minutes. Hopefully the satellite signal won't mess up.
+/- Will be calling the insurance company to see how much my parents need to pay for me to drive by myself.
(+) Adsolution will be here tomorrow, and will be staying for quite a decent amount of time
(-) Sleeping schedule really fucked up, quite possibly the worst it has been in a while, hoping I can adjust to a better schedule when Ad is over.
(-) Really bad timing, I rarely found myself too busy this summer but for some of the days that Ad will be here I have to take care of a few things that'll be kind of distracting for our hangout, but shouldn't take up too much time.