Girlfriends and Boyfriends

[ikke471]

i'm really in love with a girl at school now...but i think she sees me like: just a good friend (i'm really shy so i don't dare to ask her if she likes me or not ) so.... could you help me with this, because i don't know what to do!

[stan423321]

Ikke, you have kinda lesser problem than me. Could one explain a sick introvertic what is love?

No, honestly. Some weirdness in my mind makes me think I can't just start loving someone before knowing them well. So, if it is true, basically getting a girlfriend is impossible in my case, especially since I got to school in different area, where I just can't understand the social code. (For example, in my town kisses basically meant relationship; here some groups kiss each other as a hello, and I have heck no idea what does form such a group.)

[ikke471]

Ikke, you have kinda lesser problem than me. Could one explain a sick introvertic what is love?

No, honestly. Some weirdness in my mind makes me think I can't just start loving someone before knowing them well. So, if it is true, basically getting a girlfriend is impossible in my case, especially since I got to school in different area, where I just can't understand the social code. (For example, in my town kisses basically meant relationship; here some groups kiss each other as a hello, and I have heck no idea what does form such a group.)

Okay that's pretty confusing.... But are you in love? If Not then just enjoy the kisses! If yes enjoy the kisses even more! But in my case it's different i know her for a while now and i'm totally in love with her, but she thinks were just friends!

[stan423321]

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I think we didn't understand each other. The fact I can observe some groups of people doing something unusual for me doesn't automatically mean I belong to such a group of people.

[ikke471]

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I think we didn't understand each other. The fact I can observe some groups of people doing something unusual for me doesn't automatically mean I belong to such a group of people.

Oh now i get it (sorry english isn't my first language) and that's really unusual. Yeah that's quitte annoying for you isn't it?

[Adsolution]

Ikke, you have kinda lesser problem than me. Could one explain a sick introvertic what is love?

No, honestly. Some weirdness in my mind makes me think I can't just start loving someone before knowing them well. So, if it is true, basically getting a girlfriend is impossible in my case, especially since I got to school in different area, where I just can't understand the social code. (For example, in my town kisses basically meant relationship; here some groups kiss each other as a hello, and I have heck no idea what does form such a group.)

Okay that's pretty confusing.... But are you in love? If Not then just enjoy the kisses! If yes enjoy the kisses even more! But in my case it's different i know her for a while now and i'm totally in love with her, but she thinks were just friends!

The best thing for you to do is just come right out at the best moment (if you're conversing, just bring it up after the conversation), and see her response. It may or may not cause an awkwardness, but even if it does, it's going to happen no matter when you ask.

I REALLY, REALLY feel like bitching about freshmen highschoolers in love/"dating" right now. It's so not gonna happen, as people don't even develop a proper sense of responsibility and commitment until later.

[Puruun]

Ikke, you have kinda lesser problem than me. Could one explain a sick introvertic what is love?

According to one of my friends love is accepting all the good and bad sides from a person and still wanting to be with that person forever and miss that person when he/she's not with you. Having a crush on someone on the other hand is idealising that person. You can only start loving that person when you know him/her well enough.

Ugh I'm bad at explaining abstract things. Hope it helped you though!

[DesLife]

You got it all wrong.

[Puruun]

Yep, that's totally way better.

[Acarr]

I was talking to my boyfriend over msn earlier then he just randomly went offline when I was away for a bit. I texted him asking where he went and he said he went over to a friends house. This friend of his has a sister who fancied my boyfriend (dunno if that's still the case) and has this very day just come back from a very long trip. I just casually asked him if he went over to see her and he flipped in anger at me, said I really upset him and that he only went over to see his friend and didn't want to see me later. :/ Then suddenly changed his mind. -sigh- Wtf?

[Puruun]

That doesn't seem to be a good sign..

[Acarr]

Is he mad at me for "suspecting things" or maybe there's something funny going on? I don't wanna jump at the wrong things.

[Puruun]

Why don't you ask him later? Or would he get angry again? I don't know what your bf is like.

[Xenon]

He sounds quite inconsiderate if he fails to understand your concerns about this. Confront him about his failings and if he flips again, tell him to sling his hook

[Hedgehog673]

I've experienced nearly the same as DroolPirate, about a year ago. Though, not as frustrating. I fell in love witha girl in my class, and I was way too quick to tell her. She said no, and I started stalking her. Although it wasn't very visible for her, she clearly got angry with me after a few talks, and now she's making sure to never look at me or get into any kind of conversation. I forgot about her half a year ago, though, so I'm done with her for now. Still, I feel that I should apologise to her about how I've been to her, before ending it for sure.
And, I'm pretty sure she got more emotional problems than me
I hope you'll work it out, DroolPirate!

[spiraldoor]

He sounds quite inconsiderate if he fails to understand your concerns about this.

Or maybe he does not like it when his girlfriend demonstrates that she does not trust him.

[Hunchman801]

Could one explain a sick introvertic what is love?

[Adsolution]

He sounds quite inconsiderate if he fails to understand your concerns about this.

Or maybe he does not like it when his girlfriend demonstrates that she does not trust him.

It's a cross between both most likely. I know guys get very pissed off when people question their day-to-day activities, but also know that it's a harmless question. If he was in a good mood he would probably laugh and say that it was not so, but if he's in a bad mood he might do what he did there, and that mood usually arises from asking too many questions in general (possibly).

[Drindrence]

Had a boyfriend,
but unfortunatly he found a prettier and more "normal" girl.

[Rsandee]

I don't have a girlfriend, since almost every girl here is either an attention whore, stupid as fuck or unreliable.

I'm still like this.
But I'm going to a different school now, because I'm done at my school.
In my old school, most girls were arrogant.
There were only a few who were not, and most fell under the catagory ''stupid as fuck''. (which is a bit exaggerated, but I think my girlfriend atleast needs a good brain)
And then there were a few left, which were unreliable.

And that's how I choose a girl.