spiraldoor wrote:It sounds to me like you cut yourself because you really want your brother to pay attention to you.
As much as I'd love to agree, I'd have to say no. This was before my brother began the asshatiness; in fact I think the not caring was the start of it.
RayFan9876 wrote:I swear that was an exact copypasta of something I posted a while ago.
I had you in mind when I typed it
RayFan9876 wrote:As for your brother, relationship speaking, I think you have the worst kind. The way your brother talks to me is similar to the way my "mother" talks to me, and it feels so incredibly degrading. My "brother" does it too, but he's hardly around (he's usually out with friends getting drunk and performing with his band). If you're on your last legs, all I can probably suggest is doing something that proves to him that you're more than a "little sister" (I assume he's older than you, right?). I haven't succeeded at that yet, albeit I would have tried harder if he were around more, but for me it's just not worth it anymore. You live with your brother though, so I think it's plenty worth it to really surprise him with something. Unless you already do this, try doing something for him that would be completely against your normal interests and inside his, and see if he likes it. If he criticizes it, then... shit. If he is actually pleasantly surprised and it's the first nice reaction you get out of him, then maybe, through unnecessary acting on your part he'll start to like you more. I can't really say if that will happen or not, but it kind of seems like one of those possible things to me.
Thanks for the adivce. o3o I didn't know you had it the same tbh.
The thing is though, i don't know what's in his interests. I tried talking to him about music videos; I asked if he'd seen the one for If I Were A Boy ( which I think is pretty neat) and his response was "no." -walks off- which isn't very comforting.
But thank you, I'll see if I can try something else
RayFan9876 wrote:
What was it specifically or generally that caused you to cut yourself though?
Like I said, I don't remember. I think it was something to do with an article on the internet about banning under-6s from resteraunts. If I remember correctly it wasn't the article that made me sad, it was the coments which were basically comprised of I HATE KIDS AND ANYONE UNDER 21 SHOULD BE BANNED FROM GOING ANYWHERE EXCEPT FOR CHUCKY CHEESE I'M ANTI BREEDER AND PROUD and bascially went on about how they'd euthinise every child on the planet if they could.
I'm sure it wasn't just that though, there has to be something else. I'm not THAT sensitive.
Spanex wrote:I actually have a similar problem. I don't think my brother (he is older) understands that my feelings get deeply hurt when he calls me out when he thinks I did something wrong. I was told he doesn't mean it that way, but the tone of voice he uses just...ugh. It just burns, you know? At some point it made me wish I was a single child.
Once, rather than asking me about it first, he simply accused me unjustly of leaving wet washcloths in the bathroom. So, how did he punish me? He dropped them right on my chair. That's right. And when I asked about who did it, he began to cuss me out.
And though that's not even one of the worst things he did to make me feel like crap, it was the last straw. I didn't know what to do, so I talked with my mother about it. And even though I should have spoken to him, it was her who began the confrontation.
I'm not a person who can fight back. Especially against abusive family members. When he does these things and backtalks, I just shut down. Defeated.
Sometimes I think he likes to pick on me just for the reason I'm so easy to pick on...
It's the same here. All of it. Where "parenting" is concerned my brother seems to think he has the right but not the responsibility; ie, he can tell me off for ANYTHING he wants however minor (read: one swear word) but he doesn't have to; It's like he does it for a lesiure activity. And I back down because I'm not good at arguing. At all. I think Spiral can testify
It's funny though; he used to go on about how intelligent I am and how I'm going to do so well in my GCSEs and how I'm cleverer (is that a word?) than him, and it's like he doesn't believe that anymore n.n
