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[sergiomonty]

As an aromantic asexual, I see no benefits in being in a relationship. I want to live free without being devoted to someone. I love all my friends equally and I would never put them in a some kind of stupid order on who's better. But when I told my mother that I don't want to get married, she just laughed and said my mind will change. Doesn't she know that it's an offensive thing to say? I honestly cringe at the idea. Some people may earn strength and happiness from something like that and I think fictional and real couples, such as the relationship my friend is in, can be truly adorable. But I myself would fucking hate every single second of romantic hollaballoo directed towards me.

Woah. That's really interesting to know.

Sometimes I'd like to be just like that... but, well, it's impossible to me, so I still have something to worry about I guess...

Don't worry, you're not missing anything. Not trying to find negativity in love or anything like that but... trust me, you're better like that, you're avoiding what in reality is a big problem.

[Keane]

As an aromantic asexual, I see no benefits in being in a relationship. I want to live free without being devoted to someone. I love all my friends equally and I would never put them in a some kind of stupid order on who's better. But when I told my mother that I don't want to get married, she just laughed and said my mind will change. Doesn't she know that it's an offensive thing to say? I honestly cringe at the idea. Some people may earn strength and happiness from something like that and I think fictional and real couples, such as the relationship my friend is in, can be truly adorable. But I myself would fucking hate every single second of romantic hollaballoo directed towards me.

Woah. That's really interesting to know.

Sometimes I'd like to be just like that... but, well, it's impossible to me, so I still have something to worry about I guess...

Don't worry, you're not missing anything. Not trying to find negativity in love or anything like that but... trust me, you're better like that, you're avoiding what in reality is a big problem.

Haha, I know what you mean. Would save a lot of time and trouble.

[neo]

As an aromantic asexual, I see no benefits in being in a relationship. I want to live free without being devoted to someone. I love all my friends equally and I would never put them in a some kind of stupid order on who's better. But when I told my mother that I don't want to get married, she just laughed and said my mind will change. Doesn't she know that it's an offensive thing to say? I honestly cringe at the idea. Some people may earn strength and happiness from something like that and I think fictional and real couples, such as the relationship my friend is in, can be truly adorable. But I myself would fucking hate every single second of romantic hollaballoo directed towards me.

I respect that. I want to love and be loved though, so I'll be fine with a relationship. For me, there are few girls I'd really LIKE, as opposed to being attracted to a girl. But yeah, what do when you like someone? I'd say be with them. Or sob because you don't have a chance with them. Such is life.

[Zikken]

Then again its impossible for me because I'm Asexual-Biromantic.

Are you sure of that? I honestly thought the same thing for myself up until about a year ago when I was caught in a similar, unhappy emotional situation. A lack of excitement or positive feelings, coupled with general stress can greatly deplete or obscure your sense of orientation. I'm not denying the possibility of your actual biological asexuality, but such a thing is so very uncommon, and from the way you speak of it, I think there's a good chance you may simply not know what to feel.

I'm pretty sure I know how I am about that. I'm not unhappy or anything like you said. I'm actually at the most happy part of my life so I don't see how it could obscure it. The appearance of someone is never going to be a thing that I will care about, don't think I could end up having a crush on a complete stranger.

He thinks he owns everything I do in my life so he must "control" me but he is just making himself look stupid.

did your dad live in the hills of pennsilvania?

What? I'm in Canada.

[sergiomonty]

Congratulations for your new status, ZeptoRay!

[Zikken]

Thank you.

[sergiomonty]

Hm. I've been reading this conversation.

Not to bash but... Is everyone here asexual? . It is kind of fishy that almost every girl on this forum says to be asexual, while it could NOT be the case.

In reality, studies state that around 1.1% of human population is asexual. Would be too much of a coincidence that a bunch of them were here, in a forum about Rayman.

I'm saying this in the most calm way I could: Make up your minds before saying such things, because one thing is being legit asexual, which means not fully realized sexual pleasure or attraction after other people, and another thing is being sexually repressed just because "ew, dicks", which, like Ad's case, could last just for a while and it's just matter of personal confusion. (That doesn't necessarily mean that asexual people don't masturbate and such... that's still... debatable)

Not to sound harsh, but some people call themselves "asexual" just because the word sounds pretty and because they don't like the idea of having sexual intercourse. Which is. Pretty. Darn. Normal.

Shall I remind you: Being asexual in most cases is NOT a choice. It's something that someone was born with. There are very minor cases of conversion, but for a 1.1%, that's pretty minor.

I find GN's asexuality legit in some way, though, I don't know, she really seems entirely fine with herself. But I couldn't really tell because I don't really know her that much.

But yeah...I sort of know about this stuff. I once befriended an asexual girl, and I had to study asexuality for an entire YEAR, just to understand how she works.

Check this out, it's a pretty cool place to know more about asexuality, and the people in the forums are really nice:

http://www.asexuality.org/home/

[Cairnie]

When I was a teenager I didn't really have any interest in sex and relationships to a point on whether or not I thought I was asexual, and it didn't help that people gave me stick because touching a girl's butt by accident totally makes you a lesbian. :/ I still haven't really come to a conclusion on whether or not I'm bi but I know for sure I'm happy with being in a hetero relationship, and when that began my views on such changed drastically.

[Adsolution]

I'm pretty sure I know how I am about that. I'm not unhappy or anything like you said. I'm actually at the most happy part of my life so I don't see how it could obscure it. The appearance of someone is never going to be a thing that I will care about, don't think I could end up having a crush on a complete stranger.

Didn't you say before that you weren't ever really happy? Regardless, I'm just saying that you shouldn't try and confirm your lack of sexuality at this point, because everyone I've known who called themselves asexual when they were 15-16 ended up not entirely being so within a few years. Biological asexuality is extremely rare, and with that also comes the complete removal of the ability to have a 'crush', like I believe you said you'd had in the past. Again, perhaps you are given that I've only known you for about a month, but at this point the chances of it being so, even though you may really believe it to be at this point, are still extraordinarily slim.

Sergio actually described it very well.

[Keane]

I can see what you mean Sergio, and your obviously not trying to bash anyone. Already at a pretty young age I considered that I could be homosexual but I'm definitely not. I can't say I've got a large desire for sex but I'm all up for entering a relationship with the other gender.

[Zikken]

I'm pretty sure I know how I am about that. I'm not unhappy or anything like you said. I'm actually at the most happy part of my life so I don't see how it could obscure it. The appearance of someone is never going to be a thing that I will care about, don't think I could end up having a crush on a complete stranger.

Didn't you say before that you weren't ever really happy? Regardless, I'm just saying that you shouldn't try and confirm your lack of sexuality at this point, because everyone I've known who called themselves asexual when they were 15-16 ended up not entirely being so within a few years. Biological asexuality is extremely rare, and with that also comes the complete removal of the ability to have a 'crush', like I believe you said you'd had in the past. Again, perhaps you are given that I've only known you for about a month, but at this point the chances of it being so, even though you may really believe it to be at this point, are still extraordinarily slim.

Sergio actually described it very well.

Well now i'm going to question myself again thanks. I could just be confused with myself. Although I lack complete interest in anything to do with sex, so I'm just majorly confused.

[sergiomonty]

Having this kind of conversations always reminds me of this:



Do your research, ZeptoRay, and explore yourself a little more. Some thinking and letting time pass may help you. If you still really think you're asexual, investigate about it and come to a conclusion.

[Zikken]

I already did for 4 months last year eh. I'll just wait and see really.

[MLII]

I'm still kind of coming to terms with my sexuality. o3o I'm about 90% sure I'm pan but the problem with that is most people think I'm just doing it for attention and raNdOm xDDDD. >___>" So I have gotten a lot of comments from people such as "oh you'll change your mind when you're older", "you're faking it" etc etc. v . v Also my brother is gay so if I out myself to my parents they'll just either think I'm copying him or they'll give me the same you're-too-young-to-know-for-sure bullshit they gave him.

I also don't have much of a desire for sex but I don't think I'm asexual-panromantic or anything like that. Maybe I just have a low sex drive. o3o

[sergiomonty]

I'm still kind of coming to terms with my sexuality. o3o I'm about 90% sure I'm pan but the problem with that is most people think I'm just doing it for attention and raNdOm xDDDD. >___>" So I have gotten a lot of comments from people such as "oh you'll change your mind when you're older", "you're faking it" etc etc. v . v Also my brother is gay so if I out myself to my parents they'll just either think I'm copying him or they'll give me the same you're-too-young-to-know-for-sure bullshit they gave him.

I also don't have much of a desire for sex but I don't think I'm asexual-panromantic or anything like that. Maybe I just have a low sex drive. o3o

It's fun because in spanish "pan" means "bread". So whenever a friend of mine says he's "pansexual" we say he likes to fuck with slices of bread, making a penis sandwich.

[spiraldoor]

I generally find claims of niche sexuality difficult to take seriously, especially on the internet. I can't help but cringe when people describe themselves as aromantic bio-pan-transgenderqueer mega reverse queen interbisexual octopusphiles or whatever.

[Keane]

I'm still kind of coming to terms with my sexuality. o3o I'm about 90% sure I'm pan but the problem with that is most people think I'm just doing it for attention and raNdOm xDDDD. >___>" So I have gotten a lot of comments from people such as "oh you'll change your mind when you're older", "you're faking it" etc etc. v . v Also my brother is gay so if I out myself to my parents they'll just either think I'm copying him or they'll give me the same you're-too-young-to-know-for-sure bullshit they gave him.

I also don't have much of a desire for sex but I don't think I'm asexual-panromantic or anything like that. Maybe I just have a low sex drive. o3o

If your still coming to terms with it then I can assure you that deciding whether you are anything is wayyyy too early. Like I said, I already started thinking I was a gay when I was ten.

interbisexual octopusphiles

Dude I'm not lying, I really have that. Back off.

[sergiomonty]

I generally find claims of niche sexuality difficult to take seriously, especially on the internet. I can't help but cringe when people describe themselves as aromantic bio-pan-transgenderqueer mega reverse queen interbisexual octopusphiles or whatever.

Leads me to think... what's your sexual orientation, Spiraldoor?

[Adsolution]

I generally find claims of niche sexuality difficult to take seriously, especially on the internet. I can't help but cringe when people describe themselves as aromantic bio-pan-transgenderqueer mega reverse queen interbisexual octopusphiles or whatever.

I've always felt that labelling system to be useless, because it's basically self-diagnosis on a topic even science doesn't really understand. Until there are solid definitions for these things and you can have them objectively confirmed, labelling yourself as such is probably more misleading to yourself than it is without. Just be yourself, and don't worry about being all pseudo-technical about it.

It's one of the reasons I was never overly fond of LGBT conventions, they're filled with too many hippies and raging activists that don't understand the drastic difference between blind conservatism and scientific objectivity.

[Snagglebee]

Do you think there will be ever a new Sega console? I don't think so. Sega would deal with a hard concurrence.