Friendship, love et cetera

[Zikken]

Eh, the look of someone never was and never will be important to me for things of the kind, I actually never pay attention to that but at the personality of someone instead. I actually don't understand what is with the look of someone and how its even important.

Friendship wise, I got a bunch of friends on the internet, great ones at that, but I only have one friend in real life and we barely talk to each other.

[Keane]

Haha, well, I'd almost say it's impossible for a male to not find someone's appearances attractive. I do find that I'm not not even the slightest bit demanding when it comes to looks nor do I really value it. Someone can spend all their time and dedication to making themselves look appealing but if they act like an idiot those looks really don't help or erase that. I swear all the guys around me constantly enter these silly relationships with girls just because they think they look cute and then wonder why it didn't last longer then a week.

[Adsolution]

Of course the look of someone has some level of importance, otherwise there wouldn't be a such thing as sexual attraction. Personally I believe there should be a lot more bearing on someone's personality than how they look in the long run, but it's not as if looks are entirely irrelevant. I have my own preferences, just as I do with food or artstyle; I can't help that.

[Zikken]

I still don't understand but alright.

I swear all the guys around me constantly enter these silly relationships with girls just because they think they look cute and then wonder why it didn't last longer then a week.

This happens way too often.

[Master]

Hm, I don't get involved in the relationship game, I don't feel I'm ready to start that sort of thing.

[Zikken]

Of course the look of someone has some level of importance, otherwise there wouldn't be a such thing as sexual attraction.

I guess I lack of this then because it doesn't seem to be in my system.

[Rulez]

I feel like I'm repeating myself actually, but looks do play a part in being attracted to someone, despite the cliché "don't judge by looks". I remember when I said that once and someone thought I meant "looks are the only important factor" which is bullshit.

[Keane]

I think I'm not really on the same page as most people when it comes to looks. I personally see nothing in a Miss Universe or pornstars (The typical woman with large features, long blond hair, etc). I think my preferences goes more to people who look, well, human. I think Thom Yorke is legitimately good looking while most people tend to compare him to homeless men.

Come on now, he doesn't look bad at all. :/ I'd kill for the haircut.

[Zikken]

I feel like I'm repeating myself actually, but looks do play a part in being attracted to someone, despite the cliché "don't judge by looks".

Explain how that doesn't apply to me then?

[Adsolution]

@Keane:
Aye, Thomy is one handsome bloke. I'll also have to put David Tennant in the same boat.

Of course the look of someone has some level of importance, otherwise there wouldn't be a such thing as sexual attraction.

I guess I lack of this then because it doesn't seem to be in my system.

Remember, don't jump to conclusions just because they're incredibly subdued right now to the point of feeling likely nonexistent. Seriously, I felt the exact same way you did before, and being one way is not more humble than another. I only say this because I have severe doubts that you truly are asexual, and the feeling of not being attracted to anyone is mutual to many in your life situation or maturity mindset.

[Keane]

@Keane:
Aye, Thomy is one handsome bloke. I'll also have to put David Tennant in the same boat.

Tennant is indeed handsome. Now I just gotta put these two together with Beck Hansen and Moby and Keane's man crush collection is complete.

[Zikken]

I only say this because I have severe doubts that you truly are asexual

I did say that I was going to think about that because I am not asexual after the description someone told the other day.

Remember, don't jump to conclusions just because they're incredibly subdued right now to the point of feeling likely nonexistent.

Seeing how i'm going to be 17 in not even 4 months I wonder where that went. A book about aspergers tells that being one is a cause of that apparently.

[Serza5]

Sexuality was never something I liked to label. I respect those that do feel comfortable with labels but I personally feel it should be a matter of "You want to have sex with the opposite gender? Go ahead. The same gender? Sure. You don't want sex? That's fine." and shouldn't boil down to "I identify as such and therefore I shall only like such". I'm not sure if this sounds really ignorant though so i'm sorry if it does. :C

[sonicbrawler182]

I had a rollercoaster of a romance experience over the last 3 years. It ended on a horrible note though, the girl went from being the most beautiful, sweetest, amazing, talented and trustworthy person I know to having the mind of the most average, ditzy, horny, obsessive, and mood-swinging girl I know. We never dated, and I never intended to ask her to after being rejected twice, but I always did things for her, as we were really close. I just genuinely cared about her and wanted her to be happy more than anything, after I while, I didn't care about getting together with her as long as she was smiling. She has had feelings for me at various points in time, but could never do anything about it, and then some guy would do a random nice thing for her and she'd suddenly be all over him. Yet she'd still depend on me for the sort of things people would want a relationship for, because her boyfriends were always horny, immature people who didn't even second guess breaking up with her after a few months. And she'd always come to me first and foremost when she needed support, particularly regarding her emotions.

I cut contact with her after a certain event though. The last I talked to her, she was just.......a horrible person. I never cry, but just thinking about how she was during that last time makes me want to do just that, while breaking down some walls in my rage.

Then

[Dark Lum Lord]

I was an idiot to not realize that at the time and an even bigger one not to do anything about it.

What exactly can you do about it? You're thirteen.

"I kind of agree. The average "relationship" at my age doesn't last too long. I'd rather save all of that drama for later anyways."

[Rulez]

I feel like I'm repeating myself actually, but looks do play a part in being attracted to someone, despite the cliché "don't judge by looks".

Explain how that doesn't apply to me then?

I meant "for me", sorry.

[Zikken]

Nah its okay, I misread it. Happens more than often recently.

[neo]

I feel like I'm repeating myself actually, but looks do play a part in being attracted to someone, despite the cliché "don't judge by looks". I remember when I said that once and someone thought I meant "looks are the only important factor" which is bullshit.

I agree. I'm sure it comes from both genders too. We want someone cute, someone attractive enough. I feel it's best to give a person that is attractive enough a chance, and not just be like "Nope i can do better than this girl/boy!". I would obviously not want to date a girl who I feel is not as attractive in my opinion. But I try to give a girl a chance (and if I like her personality, and don't dislike how she's approaching me etc) if she's cute enough. I'm not looking for some hot shit, because I'm no hotshot either. I'm just some guy who would like a cute girl. Simple as that.

Looks isn't the only factor, but it does give an impression. Looks first, then personality. And maybe other stuff I can't think of right now.

I mean honestly. I'm a guy. Obv I'm most likely perverted like most men, but I don't want just sex. I want a girl that I'd like. Sex is better spent on some girl you'd really like, or possibly even love and stick with longer than a week like a post above said xD

[spiraldoor]

I was an idiot to not realize that at the time and an even bigger one not to do anything about it.

What exactly can you do about it? You're thirteen.

"I kind of agree. The average "relationship" at my age doesn't last too long. I'd rather save all of that drama for later anyways."

What exactly can you "do about it" when you're thirteen? You're not developed. I suppose you could hold her hand or something like that, but for someone your age the entire concept of a relationship is a bit academic.

[Dark Lum Lord]

I was an idiot to not realize that at the time and an even bigger one not to do anything about it.

What exactly can you do about it? You're thirteen.

"I kind of agree. The average "relationship" at my age doesn't last too long. I'd rather save all of that drama for later anyways."

What exactly can you "do about it" when you're thirteen? You're not developed. I suppose you could hold her hand or something like that, but for someone your age the entire concept of a relationship is a bit academic.

And I agree with that. At that age one's not enough old enough to go on a date in the first place which only reassures the fact that there's nothing to do about it.