Pluses (+) and minuses (−) of this day

[Zikken]

Jesus, what was that... Although, I'd rather get to live with a better family any day, even my little brother got something against me.

[Adsolution]

Zepto your case reminds me something on TV. Some children were sent to really bad step parents and they got treated very unfair until a mysterious lawer appeared and revealed their madness in Court of Justice because what they did to those children was illegal and those steps parents went in jail and those children were sent to better parents. ._.

The problem is that most abusive parents either don't technically do anything illegal, or they do, but only enough so that you still feel entirely dependant on them and you wouldn't feel that it's worth your while to report them, which would especially be the case if you also have relatives you're close to.

[Snagglebee]

Zepto your case reminds me something on TV. Some children were sent to really bad step parents and they got treated very unfair until a mysterious lawer appeared and revealed their madness in Court of Justice because what they did to those children was illegal and those steps parents went in jail and those children were sent to better parents. ._.

The problem is that most abusive parents either don't technically do anything illegal, or they do, but only enough so that you still feel entirely dependant on them and you wouldn't feel that it's worth your while to report them, which would especially be the case if you also have relatives you're close to.

Yeah your right! But I remember ZeptoRay saying that she got slapped sometime. In Germany, violence to children like slapping is illegal enough! But in the court you somehow have to prove it.

[Adsolution]

- Even in most American states corporal (physical) punishment is illegal. Unfortunately, in Canada it is legal (encapsulating both Zepto and I), but there must be no visible or lasting injury as a result of it. I was nearly taken away from my family in third grade when my teacher found a massive bruise on my cheek and neck, but stupid me decided to use the lie my mother told me to use.

+ 16,000th post

[OCG]

- Parnets who do physical punishment probably do it because they have complex from their childhood. The father of my grandmother was a man like I never seen. He was beating up his children all the time for the stupidest reason. If homework was not not written with nice handwriting, he would yell, and rip all pages apart and start beating up others. Same for comming late home or some other bullshit reason. When brother of my grandmother turned 18, he literally kicked him out from house along with the stuff he packed for him while he was not home. When he was a child, he was abused as well.

[Zikken]

Yeah your right! But I remember ZeptoRay saying that she got slapped sometime. In Germany, violence to children like slapping is illegal enough! But in the court you somehow have to prove it.

Aye, I got slapped, beaten up with punches and kicks, strangled and I do recall my dad threatening me to use his belt as a whip. When I was 10 I decided that I had enough and replied by violence acta but then they would just pine me down on the floor and slap me. This turned into yelling swears back and what I think about what they are doing, but because I have such a poor control over my emotions it just screws up and I get verbally attacked for saying "weird illogical things". Recently I'm just shutting them up and locking myself in my room bleh.

I also ended up with a side effect from that, I became insomniac, because I started to worry too much which made me over-think, it became a habit now and I can't do anything about it, it makes me unable to sleep for hours, sometimes I just don't even sleep at all. My parents of course, blame it on internet people saying everyone is a piece of shit that I should get off and get "real" friends.

I was nearly taken away from my family in third grade when my teacher found a massive bruise on my cheek and neck, but stupid me decided to use the lie my mother told me to use.

Oh god, I made the same mistake, I was told that if I didn't something really bad was going to happen to me and I got scared.

- Parnets who do physical punishment probably do it because they have complex from their childhood.

Well my mom was raped by her own father, while my dad's parents died, his little sister got hit by a drunk person on her birthday, and his older brother killed himself. But his parents were super nice with him. My grandma is one of the nicest person I have ever seen even though I can't stand her but she never did anything bad to my mom. I don't think those are reasons to beat me up because I'm not what they expect me to be. You can just even see what name they named me and the reason why disgust me. I was told by my dad 3 months ago I was named "Marilyn" because of Marilyn Monroe and that they expected me to be like her, I think that's fucked up.
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- fell asleep on join me while friend was talking to the sleeping me I feel like such an ass whoops.
- I should actually be sleeping.

[Snagglebee]

Oh my dear ZeptoRay *is huging allowed?* .

[OCG]

My parents of course, blame it on internet people saying everyone is a piece of shit that I should get off and get "real" friends.

That is very ignorant thing. Just because we are on internet we are shit? That makes no sense. We are people too and we just use internet because we all live on different locations and internet helps us connect with other people and discuss about things we like. Friends are friends no matter where they live

[Zikken]

Oh my dear ZeptoRay *is huging allowed?* .

Yes it is.

That is very ignorant thing. Just because we are on internet we are shit? That makes no sense. We are people too and we just use internet because we all live on different locations and internet helps us connect with other people and discuss about things we like. Friends are friends no matter where they live

When I look at what I just said my friend's parents think the same way. Either people have a bad influence or are 40 years old pedophiles to them apparently. Pretty stupid.

[Adsolution]

Aye, I got slapped, beaten up with punches and kicks, strangled and I do recall my dad threatening me to use his belt as a whip. When I was 10 I decided that I had enough and replied by violence acta but then they would just pine me down on the floor and slap me. This turned into yelling swears back and what I think about what they are doing, but because I have such a poor control over my emotions it just screws up and I get verbally attacked for saying "weird illogical things". Recently I'm just shutting them up and locking myself in my room bleh.

That sounds like a total blast of fun, hm? Who knew biological punching bags that grow only larger over time and that automatically heal existed? The children! They're right there! XXX says it's a great way to deal with stress.

My father tended to treat me the same way before he left when I was ten, the most (ironically) memorable part of it being a particular stairs incident which has bestowed unto me a permanently stitched scar situated on my forehead, as well as the gift of minor short-term memory loss (inability to recall some immediate information, often forcing me to re-read or be re-told something multiple times consecutively). Suffice to say, it's really fucking annoying, and while I don't throw the word 'hate' around very often, there are certain people I have no problem affiliating it with.

Well my mom was raped by her own father, while my dad's parents died, his little sister got hit by a drunk person on her birthday, and his older brother killed himself. But his parents were super nice with him. My grandma is one of the nicest person I have ever seen even though I can't stand her but she never did anything bad to my mom.

Your dad sounds like he's found his way into quite a series of unfortunate events, and your mother, well, I'm not entirely sure how I'd word it - in seventh grade, that happened to one of our classmates, one who I actually had a crush on.

My mother's parents also beat her, and she actually was sexually abused by her brother (my uncle) when they were younger, yet oddly enough, he and his wife (my aunt) happened to be the people whom I'd loved the most, whom I'd always thought of as my 'real' family. He's no longer the person he used to be, he was now a doctor, and with my tendency to ask obscure, complicated science-related and questions, he would always manage to explain them to me and often show how it all worked - he was like a dream parent for me - intelligent, motivational, and sharing a love for making the world a better place - and he completely understood what it meant to have personal space, being an extreme introvert himself. My aunt, she was a hilarious person who loved the arts, and she took me to and from school on Thursdays and Fridays.

He hung himself in 2009 after getting drunk one night (he'd been sober for twenty years), and my aunt then died of stomach cancer in early 2012, because she stopped eating almost entirely due to the loss of her husband. Quite literally, everyone I know in person who has made a significantly positive impact on my life has died, and this accounts for one of my friends as well, who was raped and then killed herself in front of me. I've brought that particular story up more than once on this forum before, and I feel like a snob for doing it again, but it rarely leaves me at peace.

I don't think those are reasons to beat me up because I'm not what they expect me to be. You can just even see what name they named me and the reason why disgust me. I was told by my dad 3 months ago I was named "Marilyn" because of Marilyn Monroe and that they expected me to be like her, I think that's fucked up.

Interesting, most parents aren't usually in favour of their precious children turning into die-young sex symbols. Unless they were referring to the general archetype of commercial success when they picked your name, it seems you've surpassed their expectations by managing to not be wasted dumpster teenager #54092.

By the way, Marilyn is actually one of my favourite names. It's actually the name I'd given to a character in a story of mine.


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- I thought I'd moved past this. Apparently I'm still a bit of a moper myself, someone I've tried not to be for a while now, given my position and whatnot.
+ My mind has cleared itself up a little I suppose?

[Master]

Ad, I can imagine that there are some traumas that you can't truly shake off, I don't think anyone here minds if you or anyone else needs to vent or let loose. It's one of the reasons I like this community, people here are willing to listen and support.

[Keane]

Aye, always.

Unfortunately many people who've gone through such things in their childhood end up badly themselves. Personally I see it as them switching the roles because now they are the ones who cause the occurrences and not the ones who receive the pain from it anymore. A sort of desire to have control after years of not having it. Fucked up stress reliever. Usually either that or they are able to realise what the negativity in their life did them and they treat their children the opposite way. At least that's how my mother turned out because, while not as bad as the situations described here, she has a history of getting slapped and yelled at and all of that too. Luckily she's not followed that road (Strangely enough she gets along fine with her parents these days and sometimes I find it odd to think about because my grandparents are kind people who couldn't care more for me today. Although it wasn't ever really my grandmother, she's just a weak person and that she wouldn't attempt to put an end to any of it doesn't surprise me).

[THEdragon]

Luckily, my close family doesn't have any history of abuse that I know of. Though to be honest, I don't know any of my dad's side of the family, since my mother and I moved out of the USA and back to Australia when I was about 3 years old. My mum has a partner now who is close enough to a father for me, and he is very nice and supportive but my mum doesn't like his family and it often causes problems. :/

[Keane]

Ehh I'm not really close with my family. Decent relationship with my mother's side but nobody I'm really close with. My dad's side is just a big group of people who seem to have lost all interest in living even somewhat enjoyable lives. I dunno but their odd people and I'm not close to them at all. I don't think I've even talked to my grandfather from this side in years. At least nothing more then a hello and goodbye. The only one I like is my uncle because he used to have a shitty life with a shitty job and a shitty wife but about three years ago he stepped out of it and now he's become a very sociable person with a lot more ambition in life and his new wife is great too.

At least no bad relationships. Although there's apparently much more family from my father's side that I don't know because due to arguments and such things they apparently split up the birthdays of my grandparents in two groups that show up on different days. Didn't know this until just one or two years back.

[Zikken]

That sounds like a total blast of fun, hm? Who knew biological punching bags that grow only larger over time and that automatically heal existed? The children! They're right there! XXX says it's a great way to deal with stress.

Yeah its the A+ way.

My father tended to treat me the same way before he left when I was ten, the most (ironically) memorable part of it being a particular stairs incident which has bestowed unto me a permanently stitched scar situated on my forehead, as well as the gift of minor short-term memory loss (inability to recall some immediate information, often forcing me to re-read or be re-told something multiple times consecutively). Suffice to say, it's really fucking annoying, and while I don't throw the word 'hate' around very often, there are certain people I have no problem affiliating it with.

Jesus Christ...

My mother's parents also beat her, and she actually was sexually abused by her brother (my uncle) when they were younger, yet oddly enough, he and his wife (my aunt) happened to be the people whom I'd loved the most, whom I'd always thought of as my 'real' family. He's no longer the person he used to be, he was now a doctor, and with my tendency to ask obscure, complicated science-related and questions, he would always manage to explain them to me and often show how it all worked - he was like a dream parent for me - intelligent, motivational, and sharing a love for making the world a better place - and he completely understood what it meant to have personal space, being an extreme introvert himself. My aunt, she was a hilarious person who loved the arts, and she took me to and from school on Thursdays and Fridays.

He hung himself in 2009 after getting drunk one night (he'd been sober for twenty years), and my aunt then died of stomach cancer in early 2012, because she stopped eating almost entirely due to the loss of her husband. Quite literally, everyone I know in person who has made a significantly positive impact on my life has died, and this accounts for one of my friends as well, who was raped and then killed herself in front of me. I've brought that particular story up more than once on this forum before, and I feel like a snob for doing it again, but it rarely leaves me at peace.

I'm trying to not cry since I'm in the livingroom but its pretty useless since I already am. Ad that's a horrible story, I don't even know what to say. I can't imagine how it feels to live that, even less with your friend, I feel so bad for you right now.

And don't feel like that, if it continuously bothers you its better to talk about it than making yourself feel worse for keeping it inside.

Interesting, most parents aren't usually in favour of their precious children turning into die-young sex symbols. Unless they were referring to the general archetype of commercial success when they picked your name, it seems you've surpassed their expectations by managing to not be wasted dumpster teenager #54092.

I actually don't know the reason, they refuse to tell me. Meh not caring much since I'd rather not know the reason of that.

By the way, Marilyn is actually one of my favourite names. It's actually the name I'd given to a character in a story of mine.

Ahh.. <w>

- I thought I'd moved past this. Apparently I'm still a bit of a moper myself, someone I've tried not to be for a while now, given my position and whatnot.

Probably the only thing I have to say its to not try to avoid problems like that, its just going to make you feel worst in the end. Well at least, its what happens when I do that. Its better to talk about it with a friend.

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+ mom is letting me stay home.
+/- I have to do my French stuff at home uhgg at least its just 3 pages.
- I want to hug everyone here who is having problems like that but there is some dumb thing called distances that stops me from doing so.

[Keane]

By the way, Marilyn is actually one of my favourite names. It's actually the name I'd given to a character in a story of mine.

Ahh.. <w>

Aye, I agree it's a nice name. Marilyn, Elizabeth, Cheryl. All good.

- I want to hug everyone here who is having problems like that but there is some dumb thing called distances that stops me from doing so.

PC needs a real life meet up. \o/ Only I couldn't show up myself. Guess I'll make it my life goal to save money and meet all of you individually.

[Snagglebee]

Oh my God! Adsolution and Zepto! I am really sorry to hear what all happened

When reading your problems, I suddenly realise how much luck I do have with my life. I should be really thankful to God that I was born in a rich family but not getting involved in their problems. My family has a lot of problems but their problems are luckily not ours. The only issue that involved me is that my father betrayed my mom and married another one and left her alone. But at least he didn't leave us since is still tryes to contact and help us (me, my bro and my sis).

[Keane]

When reading your problems, I suddenly realise how much luck I do have with my life. I should be really thankful to God that I was born in a rich family but not getting involved in their problems. My family has a lot of problems but their problems are luckily not ours. The only issue that involved me is that my father betrayed my mom and married another one and left her alone. But at least he didn't leave us since is still tryes to contact and help us (me, my bro and my sis).

Haha makes you more grateful doesn't it. I've been putting up with the things I'd usually get overly irritated by lately.

[Zikken]

- I want to hug everyone here who is having problems like that but there is some dumb thing called distances that stops me from doing so.

PC needs a real life meet up. \o/ Only I couldn't show up myself. Guess I'll make it my life goal to save money and meet all of you individually.

Your quote broke and turned me into Adsolution.
But yeah, that would be nice.

[jurebj]

-parents are annoying me
-I'm tired
-I feel bad
-I have school tomorrow