What's your name ?

[Canard WC]

My name is Anonymous Incognito Anonymous

Your name is incognidiot. Youhouhouh ! You stink !

[OCG]

You should definitely post more often.

[Adsolution]

Actually, that reminds me of someone one of my friends was talking about. He claimed he met someone who was a girl but felt that they should be male. Long story.

This quote would basically be other people referring to me, but obviously with the genders switched.

Your case is different DLL. There's tons of people like you, including me, who just aren't the most manliest men. Certainly not a majority but also not anything uncommon. It's your personality rather than anything in terms of sexual orientation. Be glad about it, you probably have a better idea of how to treat a girl than some guys who are five years older than you.

Hehe, indeed. Though while orientation isn't quite the right word to use (implying what you're attracted to, as I am attracted to women), it does function on a similar level, in the sense that it is often the result of an overdose of estrogen affecting your brain's development in the womb after your sex has already been determined; I don't know if this is the case with me, but it is likely, especially considering that understanding whether you're male or female should moreorless be an instinctual trait, and I always naturally assumed I was female from the moment I knew of the two genders.

I meant that it must be weird to er, "female tissue" on your body if you're a guy. Personally, I wouldn't consider it a very pleasant experience, but hey, everyone is different, and who am I to question someone else?

I didn't stay on it long enough to develop anything really, it moreorless just changed the texture of my skin and hair to something softer and smoother, which I honestly do much prefer. It's really nice. :>

Not trying to be an asshole here, but it's just, for me at least, it's kind of weird having you sound like a really cool guy, but at the same time knowing that you went through this really strange procedure, but I suppose that this doesn't affect your personality at all, and I should just shut the fuck up. I dunno; the idea of wanting to change your gender is just very strange to me, I guess because I've never had that desire.

Despite whatever equalities and freedoms exist in the world today, there still are many ways in which experiencing these as a male or female are different, and it's that preference - biased or unbiased - which can be the deciding factor, the latter being those who will likely be happier with their decision.

Also, I'm pretty childish myself but it usually comes out when I'm alone.

Much of my humor is fairly immature, and I have certain childish attributes

Given that I'm considerably older than you both (you guys were only 'children' two or three years ago, really), I can't compare it the same way, and I'd be willing to say that some of the childish attributes you're worried about are pretty normal to still have at your age, you both are just exceptionally well-spoken for being 13/14.

While I do consider much of my humour to be immature and incredibly stupid, there's sort of an entire demographic for that, hence Dolan. When I claim to have a childish presence, I mean this much more literally, in that it's everything I do on a subconscious level. When I go to the fridge to get a drink, I might sprint to it pretending I'm imitating a video game character, maybe bounce off a few walls, pretend to get shot and do an exaggerated death scene on the three stairs leading down to my kitchen, sound effects and all. If someone's having a legitimate conversation with me, I might suddenly decide to lie down and start playing with my hair, despite the fact that I'm conversing with the person absolutely normally. I absolutely love playing with little kids (literally, not as the eighteen-year-old adult figure, but as another little kid that's part of their group); essentially, if you were to physically replace me with an eight-year-old child, this wouldn't seem out of place at all. It's nothing to do with my conscious mentality or thought process, a way in which it starkly differs from autism (there's no comparison), they're things I just do, hence my entirely normal thought process and understanding of social boundaries. I can refrain from doing it if I want to, and I will automatically become perfectly adult-like and formal in appropriate situations, it's moreso something I exhibit in the presence of comfort, much like a child.

I don't know whether this relates to nature or nurture, as there are valid occurrences in both that could have contributed to it. The thing is, I completely recall and understand the kind of thoughts and the mindset (even down to exactly what I was thinking at a particular time) I've possessed throughout my whole life as young as age two, and I have a feeling that my ability to relate to them without any effort whatsoever might be a prominent factor.

I think pretty much every female ever will agree on this. No positive aspects to having them, I'm afraid. :c

Hah, I can beg to differ. You know how 'macho men' care about dick sizes and are proud of themselves? It's like that, but multiplied by ten times, and far more public. I can say this in complete honesty as someone who used to want this and is well-acquainted with many people who are like this.

[sonicbrawler182]

Aaron is ainm dom.

And while we are on the topic of genders and stuff, while a lot of people tell me I am masculine (and I often get told I am intimidating, for some reason, even by friends), I consider myself genderless (as in, I don't relate my interests and personality traits to my gender, and don't identify as either gender anyway, and never really cared to). You can still call me a "he", though. I know genderless people are referred to as "en", but I feel OK with being called a he because my sex is still male, and I'm totally OK with that (as in, I have no desire to be a woman, despite thinking my body is a bit feminine).

[Dart]

hmm, can relate to appearing very masculine, which physically I can understand. despite this my sexual orientation is a rather interesting; put simply I don't believe in love like others, while most now-a-days see it as how much you do/don't have in common or just want a sex partner, I see it as an ultimate form of friendship, one that probably half of the U.S. hasn't achieved. I also believe that love at first sight is just a primitive form of sexual desire, which I mentally reject. so MAYBE on could call me a sort of genderless heartless person, but this is just how I see it....
...and about your breast Zepto, you'd be surprised how many stupid things men (& some women) do for those, like weirder things than what they do for klondik bars!

[Adsolution]

I also believe that love at first sight is just a primitive form of sexual desire

This is exactly what it is, unfortunately a lot of people really just don't get it.

[Dark Lum Lord]

I also believe that love at first sight is just a primitive form of sexual desire

This is exactly what it is, unfortunately a lot of people really just don't get it.

It truly is. You cannot simply "love" someone who you know very little or nothing at all about. It doesn't work like this and anyone who believes it's true most likely fails to realize. And I've had experience with this as well, as there've been plenty of times in which I knew people who I thought I "fell in love with" or "had a crush on" or not long after meeting or sometimes even before meeting them, but the reality is that it's just a sort of attraction or a very minor crush at the maximum if I do know a bit about the person when I finally have those feelings.

[sonicbrawler182]

It's even better when people chase these flights of fancy and end up depressed and seriously doubting their worth as a result, when they break up with the person they chased for what, to them, felt like forever, and the break up happens a few weeks or months in. It's not that you're worthless or unattractive, you just have stupid taste and need to stop relying on impulse!

[Dark Lum Lord]

I'm actually experiencing one of those attractions right now, can't stop thinking about her. I know this is going to end badly.

[sonicbrawler182]

I'm actually experiencing one of those attractions right now, can't stop thinking about her. I know this is going to end badly.

Don't worry pal, they pass. I had one for the first time in donkey's years not too long ago. It passed in a week, and I ended up sort of disliking the girl sometime later in the year.

[Earth Gwee]

It's even better when people chase these flights of fancy and end up depressed and seriously doubting their worth as a result, when they break up with the person they chased for what, to them, felt like forever, and the break up happens a few weeks or months in. It's not that you're worthless or unattractive, you just have stupid taste and need to stop relying on impulse!

I completely agree. Which is why I have never had the desire to be with someone intimately, whatever that may imply. All I can imagine is how much hurt you can potentially cause yourself and how needlessly complicated it can get when you're in a relationship like that. I don't see why people who have a lust for one another think only about the lust. I also just don't see myself committing to any one person. To me, that means having them rely on me and me rely on them. All I can think about is the stress that can bring. That's why I prefer purely platonic friendships, where you're able to appreciate a person for who they are and have fun with them. And they're not as quick to judge if you have some dark secret you need to lay out. People in an intimate relationship are much quicker to judge each other's actions and leave bad feelings all around. If they have a relationship that works and they can get around the faults, great. If they want to commit to one another and have children without the idea of sex for sex's sake, all the better. It's just not for me.

By the way, not sure if I mentioned it before, my name's Alee (like alley). It's been a while and I have a bad memory sometimes.

[sonicbrawler182]

I don't necessarily agree with all of that, but I see where you're coming from. Out of curiosity, do you consider yourself asexual?

I don't really mind what other people do with their relationships in general. I mean, whatever floats your boat. I consider myself sensual and intimate. As in, I can be an extremely sexual person if I love someone enough, as I see sexual intimacy as a perfect way to express true love for someone, though I likely could never do friends with benefits or something casual like that. I love the idea of forming a strong romantic bond, and I don't want any other kind of half-baked relationship. Which is why I don't look. If there is someone for me, I'll run into them. If not, then that's life. Romance isn't the only way to find fulfillment.

It just really annoys me, as someone who CONSTANTLY is asked for romantic advice (heck, the fact that people ask me so much annoys me enough as is), that people can make the same mistakes over and over, chasing shallow crushes, and deluding themselves into thinking that liking someone because they're "kinda cute", is enough grounds to expect something serious and long-term to start. It kind of makes me lack empathy, and even sympathy, for other people's heartbreaks at times.

Yeah, you can tell romance and I had a bit of a complicated relationship. That's not a tale for here though! :V

[Dark Lum Lord]

Ah, but she's so cute, I can't help it. Her voice, that laugh, her humor, her appearance, I can't handle it. I just want to run up to her and hug the living shit out of her and never cease. Actually, I've done that before, my hugs tend to be pretty childish, I can't resist wrapping myself around someone and lying there cozily [Insert all of your awful puns here].

But I'm fearful since I've been in this situation last school year, I had been instantly attracted to someone before I even met them. Eventually we became close friends but by the middle of the year everything crashed and burned and to this day I'm having trouble patching things up with her and our friendship is more of an on and off thing, mostly off. We've fought countless times and I would go into further detail but it's depressing and I'm too busy procrastinating in La La Land to type up nine thousand paragraphs of angst.

[Earth Gwee]

I don't necessarily agree with all of that, but I see where you're coming from. Out of curiosity, do you consider yourself asexual?

Yes, I do consider myself asexual. The only time I've ever wanted to be with someone was when I was much younger and mainly because at that age I tended to latch onto someone I found fun to hangout with. Otherwise, I don't ever imagine myself spending the rest of my life and raising a family with anyone. So, yeah, I guess you could say I'm not attracted to either gender.

[Dark Lum Lord]

I don't necessarily agree with all of that, but I see where you're coming from. Out of curiosity, do you consider yourself asexual?

Yes, I do consider myself asexual. The only time I've ever wanted to be with someone was when I was much younger and mainly because at that age I tended to latch onto someone I found fun to hangout with. Otherwise, I don't ever imagine myself spending the rest of my life and raising a family with anyone.

Not asexual, yet I can easily relate.

[sonicbrawler182]

@DLL: Don't worry. I have a three year long love story with a bitter ending myself...then again, it hasn't exactly ended. But yeah. Not going there.

But I'll just say, make friends with her first. Get a bit closer. She may be adorable now, but you never know what she actually wants out of romance, and if she has anything that might out you off her.

@Earth Gwee: I see. In that case, I can perfectly understand why you feel the way you do, and I think it's perfectly fine. You're lucky, one less stressful thing to worry about! :V

[Dark Lum Lord]

Actually, even though I'm not close with her yet, we've seemed to have instantly connected when we had communicated, makes me feel so fuzzy inside, I love it. The high I get from crushes, attraction, and love is quite possibly easily some of the best I've had in my life coming from someone who doesn't experience emotions often. But the hasrh endings are even more extreme and can have extremely devastating effects on me and I'd rather not go into it.

Either way, that mania of fuzziness is amazing and seems to breathe much life back into my otherwise dead soul. I can't even explains, it's just a "Feels wat r u doin'" situation except positive, I can't explain my extreme appreciation of this feeling.

[sonicbrawler182]

I know that feeling. The same person gave me it for three years, and still somewhat do. I'm just saying you should be careful about it. Like you said, the endings can be harsh. You don't want love to be a drug.

[Adsolution]

That's why I prefer purely platonic friendships, where you're able to appreciate a person for who they are and have fun with them. And they're not as quick to judge if you have some dark secret you need to lay out. People in an intimate relationship are much quicker to judge each other's actions and leave bad feelings all around. If they have a relationship that works and they can get around the faults, great. If they want to commit to one another and have children without the idea of sex for sex's sake, all the better. It's just not for me.

Why do you believe this to be the case, out of curiosity? Can an intimate relationship not simply be a strong friendship with sexuality thrown into the mix? I understand that more often than not what you said will be the case, but it's only likely because you're around them more often and there's a feeling of commitment involved. I do not approve of traditional wedding vows, because you have no idea where a relationship - or a friendship for that matter - may be headed in years, or decades from the wedding. If things aren't working out, then like a friendship, I don't think you should feel the need to push yourself into a commitment that benefits no one. Love can much harder to see off than a platonic relationship can, of course, but the way we have it set up now once again stems from religion, which is in itself a baseless fabrication, and thus the social norm for relationships and commitment are no more valid by any means.

Yes, I do consider myself asexual. (...) I guess you could say I'm not attracted to either gender.

Well, this is something you would easily know for certain, whether you are or you aren't. Have you ever, at any point in time felt any kind of physical attraction to/fascination with anyone on any even minute level?

Out of curiosity, do you consider yourself asexual?

Regardless of what the answer to this question is, I don't really see how it's relevant at all. I'm not asexual, but I for the time being am just as uninterested in relationships as Gwee is, and it's not an uncommon thing.

[Dark Lum Lord]

I know that feeling. The same person gave me it for three years, and still somewhat do. I'm just saying you should be careful about it. Like you said, the endings can be harsh. You don't want love to be a drug.

Funny, since it always is one. Not to mention the fact that it always blows up in my face.