Something Bothering you?/Daily Doldrums

[sonicbrawler182]

@Adsolution: I know, but still. That's all the more reason to leave it be. I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. He's seemed like an alright person in the past, and I'm not one to hold things against people unless it's necessary. I myself don't take an awful lot of offense to what he said, though I can see why others would. For all we know, he's having a bad day or something. Those kind of things can happen, where you say something stupid because you're in a bad mood and not thinking straight. I'm not saying that is definitely the case here, but whatever the case may be, there's no need to drag this out, methinks. We should just continue to do the daily doldrum!

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I love how I signed up for "Computer Games Design" and most of my assignments have little to do with it, let alone teaching me anything new in any area, and just stress me out more than anything. Second year should at least be a whole lot better, as Communications and Work Experience won't be in the way.

[spiraldoor]

@Adsolution: I know, but still. That's all the more reason to leave it be. I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. He's seemed like an alright person in the past, and I'm not one to hold things against people unless it's necessary. I myself don't take an awful lot of offense to what he said, though I can see why others would. For all we know, he's having a bad day or something. Those kind of things can happen, where you say something stupid because you're in a bad mood and not thinking straight.

Not to undermine your thorough deconstruction of my psychological state, but that's not quite what happened. I just thought it was interesting that so many of the recent "doldrums" on this forum were teenagers complaining about their parents wanting them cut their hair or giving out to them about college assignments or making them leave a door open. I didn't even make any particular comment on this, just said it in a mildly disapproving tone, and then you lot chose to read into it whatever you found most enraging. But I've got nothing better to do, so by all means, keep the analyses rolling in.

[Dark Lum Lord]

I'll admit, overthinking is one of my many problems. Actually, my largest problem. If I hadn't overthinked many negative scenarios could have been fixed, the major one being my depression, which I never would have had if I had just looked at things neutrally. There's something about me, a sort of tick in my brain. I'm not all that sure - all I know is that for some reason I have to look into things no matter how simple the message is or take something personally, I guess it's my yearning for knowlege - which, ironically, looking into things can cause a situation that's the opposite of - combined with my fragile soul.

Enough waxing philosophical though, I'm sorry for throwing shit at the fan. That, and you make good points - "teenagers complaining about their parents wanting them to cut their hair", etc. I guess you've just proven how selfish I truly am. But at this point I've learned that it's pretty natural for teenagers to be "selfish" or such. It's a time when everything in your world changes and independence is a major goal, and while it seems angsty the more independent one attempts to be during this era of life the better. Independence is a large part of adulthood.

[spiraldoor]

I'll admit, overthinking is one of my many problems. Actually, my largest problem. If I hadn't overthinked many negative scenarios could have been fixed, the major one being my depression, which I never would have had if I had just looked at things neutrally. There's something about me, a sort of tick in my brain. I'm not all that sure - all I know is that for some reason I have to look into things no matter how simple the message is or take something personally, I guess it's my yearning for knowlege - which, ironically, looking into things can cause a situation that's the opposite of - combined with my fragile soul.

Fair enough actually – I have a friend with a touch of Asperger's syndrome who's kind of like that. He has a tendency to make the absolute worst possible assessment of the information at hand and often spends a lot of time stressing himself out over it, even though he's perfectly aware that he shouldn't – he calls it "catastrophising".

[sonicbrawler182]

No need to get so cheeky towards someone who was actually cutting you some slack because you were whining and getting sensitive over the reaction to your "observation". I wasn't trying to assume anything, I was just throwing something out there for others who were at your throat, so they might calm down, regardless of how true it was.

I like how you try to target the completely unrelated part of my post, and completely misinterpret it (I wasn't complaining to my parents about my college assignments, lolwut?). I take it you're one of those who disapproves complaining unless you're the one doing it. Because it's clear you're taking every little thing someone decides to complain about, and then complain about those people, which is quite ironic really. Personally, I wasn't raging at you beforehand at all myself, as I don't need your approval on anything I decide to talk about that's been bothering me. Nobody here does.

Also, the topic simply is for posting about any little thing that bothers someone, it doesn't have to be dire, like a loved one dying or something.

[neo]

@Adsolution: I know, but still. That's all the more reason to leave it be. I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. He's seemed like an alright person in the past, and I'm not one to hold things against people unless it's necessary. I myself don't take an awful lot of offense to what he said, though I can see why others would. For all we know, he's having a bad day or something. Those kind of things can happen, where you say something stupid because you're in a bad mood and not thinking straight.

Not to undermine your thorough deconstruction of my psychological state, but that's not quite what happened. I just thought it was interesting that so many of the recent "doldrums" on this forum were teenagers complaining about their parents wanting them cut their hair or giving out to them about college assignments or making them leave a door open. I didn't even make any particular comment on this, just said it in a mildly disapproving tone, and then you lot chose to read into it whatever you found most enraging. But I've got nothing better to do, so by all means, keep the analyses rolling in.

That's what you get when you make it a one liner that doesn't actually address any of it. My point was that this thread is for talking about how shitty you feel, and the smallest of things can contribute to that. Which is why I said "So what?" (It's worthless to argue about which shitty thing is more worth to feel shitty about), since its a venting thread, and this isn't a OH I HAVE IT WAY WORSE THAN YOU MAN JEEZ WHAT A WEENIE BABY contest. Say whatever the fuck is on your mind if you feel shitty. There also seemed to have been a implification of 'if your parents provide for you, you shouldn't moan' from your post.

If you didn't mean that, I can see how it may have came out wrong from your side. You'll also have to consider that this is a Rayman site, some of us might be teenagers, some might be a bit older since we have been around for a while, but don't be surprised if you see mostly people complaining about parents.

And yes, you are correct. This is break, I'm fine with dropping this as well.

Luckily I don't have anything to complain about now, doing well.

1. Get used to spiral or generally everyone here coming off as a huge cunt - which you probably should already be considering how long you've been here. We're usually joking and I can't tell, but I'm assuming his comment was at least semi-dry if not completely.

2. I agree completely. First of all, holding feelings inside is proven to be harmful and can cause numbness and/or depression - which it has for me. That, and parents and older authority in general bending over and demanding their asses to be kissed while giving not a single shred of respect or even decency in return is the largest load of shit. That being said though has caused my mind to wander onto the whole "Problems with school" topic which I feel I should go into full detail about, but I don't want to since I already have.

1. Yeah, but we should speak our mind when it comes to stupid comments regardless. I think we are close enough to be able to take criticism, even myself if I say something dumb.

2. Yeah, my parents sometimes treated me like shit but expected all the respect in the world, which just caused me to respect them less. I think it's the religion that may have influenced them to do that. I'm like "Not cool".

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Sorry for clogging the thread up with this. Vent away guys. Also I like what Sonicbrawler said in his recent post, said what I just typed before me.

[Adsolution]

How did I not address my phrasing when everything I've posted today was specifically about my phrasing.

I was actually going to edit my post immediately after I posted it because I worded that wrong, but I was in a real rush and wasn't able to until now. I meant that you hadn't addressed how you came up with or why you said "in every case", simply your (very pointless and provocative) inner-intentions of the post as a whole.

You use way too many comparisons like this. I prefer talking about actual things that happened and not hypothetical scenarios that are vaguely and debatably similar.

I'm totally aware of my frequent comparisons like this, I do so deliberately, and I will continue doing so. I use hypothetical analogies that everyone is familiar with and that are unanimously viewed by everyone in the same light to give the reader something as literal and commonplace as possible to relate it to to help them understand, the purpose of debate.


As for "dropping it", I really don't get why. Sure, it sprouted from a single post, but I among others didn't find the post to be remotely appropriate or acceptable given its bizarrely apparent implications, regardless of the intention, and I don't see why the 'defendant' should be given the handicap of a stalemate for being a butthole. In fact, that's pretty backward.

[sonicbrawler182]

Basically, my reasoning for dropping it is that it's not worth it to continue, personally. I don't think anyone really needs approval of others to say what they want here, and that would include spiral. Though I'm not going to stop anyone (not that I could if I wanted to) who feels the need to take it further should they choose to do so. I can't blame them, honestly.

[neo]

Yeah I think it'd just go in circles and clutter the thread. This thread is more for venting than that. It doesn't mean he is right, but rather I don't think he'd admit anything or talk about it more thoroughly (as he didn't reply to me, he said "jeez guys I just was making an observation "). I still disapprove of it. I'm willing to take it to PM though.

[spiraldoor]

No need to get so cheeky towards someone who was actually cutting you some slack because you were whining and getting sensitive over the reaction to your "observation". I wasn't trying to assume anything, I was just throwing something out there for others who were at your throat, so they might calm down, regardless of how true it was.

Sorry if I seemed to be targeting you, I was being tongue-in-cheek and trying to explain myself more clearly.

I like how you try to target the completely unrelated part of my post, and completely misinterpret it (I wasn't complaining to my parents about my college assignments, lolwut?).

My mistake, I was just throwing out a few examples from memory to make a point.

I take it you're one of those who disapproves complaining unless you're the one doing it. Because it's clear you're taking every little thing someone decides to complain about, and then complain about those people, which is quite ironic really. Personally, I wasn't raging at you beforehand at all myself, as I don't need your approval on anything I decide to talk about that's been bothering me. Nobody here does.
Also, the topic simply is for posting about any little thing that bothers someone, it doesn't have to be dire, like a loved one dying or something.

I pointed out that lots of people were doing this, but I never said you couldn't do it or that you needed my approval. Yeah, I happened to think that some of the doldrums were silly, and yeah, it was pointless of me to express that view here, nothing good could come of it. You're still reading a lot of meaning into my original comment which I never intended.

I was actually going to edit my post immediately after I posted it because I worded that wrong, but I was in a real rush and wasn't able to until now. I meant that you hadn't addressed how you came up with or why you said "in every case", simply your (very pointless and provocative) inner-intentions of the post as a whole.

What I meant was that everyone was complaining about the parents they were currently depending on, it never occurred to me that my wording might be interpreted differently.

I'm totally aware of my frequent comparisons like this, I do so deliberately, and I will continue doing so. I use hypothetical analogies that everyone is familiar with and that are unanimously viewed by everyone in the same light to give the reader something as literal and commonplace as possible to relate it to to help them understand, the purpose of debate.

Yeah, I get that, but I think some of the analogies you make misrepresent the actual situation a little.

[Adsolution]

Ah, thanks for this response, 'tis reasonable and well-explained.

On the note of the analogy, perhaps, though this is simply the way it can come across.

[technology4617]

My cousin (whom we are actually meeting up with in a bit) is being a complete and total bitch. She calls my parents (incessantly) to ask if she can meet with us, since she is up here (because of her boyfriend, not us, mind you). Since my parents have been decorating the house for Christmas and setting up the tree all day (which was difficult as one of the nuts for the stand got stuck in the trunk, wasting another 30 minutes), my dad said that we were a little busy today and couldn't meet with her. Then, as a fully-functioning 21-year-old, she phones her mommy and daddy, and starts on with this whole bullshit ramble, faking crying and whatnot, that she was "so sad" because she couldn't meet up with us, and that my grandmother (someone I am very close to, by the way) has cancer and that my cousin might very well never see her again.

That crossed a line, and really made me pissed off. If these were genuine feelings, then I would feel bad, as I am also depressed about my grandmother's approaching death. But they aren't, as she couldn't give less of a shit about my grandmother, and isn't even related to her, and she is just using my grandmother's cancer as a card, a tool, in manipulating her parents.

And where did this all lead? Into my parents going to lunch with her, because my dad doesn't have the balls to cancel it. I don't want to see her, and I don't think I should have to see her.

[OCG]

What bothers me lately is biting nails habbit which I wish I could stop.

[Rulez]

What bothers me lately is biting nails habbit which I wish I could stop.

I used to do that when I was like 6 or so, but I've stopped. However, I bite the skin on my fingers/around fingernails like a motherfucker. I lost so much blood doing that! But I just can't fucking stop.

[OCG]

lol I do both nails and skin on fingers/around fingernails. It is so hard indeed to stop, the longest I tried was like 3 weeks but then, I did it again :/
I just wish I could stop doing it.

[Adsolution]

I bite my fingernails all the time, I haven't actually used clippers on them in years, and before that, in years, and before that, never. I don't really have any intention of stopping, because I don't see anything wrong with it. It's a convenient and portable way of maintaining nail length, and I can actually make pretty clean bites. I once tried stopping for a while because I felt pressured to, and then I was playing guitar at a friend's house and found my nails disgustingly scratching the fretboard and clicking on the piano. There were no clippers around, so I just chomped them short, and asked myself why I ever even considered limiting myself to such a stupid quasi-hygienic contraption as nail clippers.

[sonicbrawler182]

I don't use nail clippers myself (I have some but I don't like using them), I use little nail scissors. Mainly because I can make much more accurate cuts, and because it means I only really have to cut my fingernails once a month due to them being able to remove more than nail clippers. My toe nails even less so, as they grow really slowly, and don't lean towards going in-grown very easily.

My weird physical habit is that I tend to crack my nose a lot, without realising it in the moment. I sometimes do it on purpose in front of my little sister, as she doesn't like it, and her reaction is funny.

[Master]

Hm, I used to bite my nails, but I left that habit years ago, I use plain ol' nail clippers for the job, but if I'm being honest, I don't do it very well.

In terms of physical habits, I notice that I always subconciously bob one of my legs if I'm sat for too long, and I have a tendency to need something in my hands to fidget with, such as a pen or that Sonic Screwdriver toy, other than that, I don't think I have any physical habits to note.

[sonicbrawler182]

I always subconciously bob one of my legs if I'm sat for too long

I actually do this with both of my legs at the same time. And funnily enough, I was doing it when I read this!
Mainly happens when I'm cold (sort of the case now), but it sometimes happens at random.

[Master]

Hm, I've done both legs at times, but one leg is more common for me, I only do two legs if I'm feeling somewhat frustrated or bored, from what I've observed.