Friendship, love et cetera

Rulez said:
RayFan9876 said:
DesLife said:
Rsandee said:
And the second line is actually quite accurate.
You're a whole country away from me, so ofcourse you experience it differently.
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No it's not, most people in univ or college aren't mature. Most adults aren't mature, even.
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*No we don't,
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I'm sleepy as hell but let me correct you. Rsandee said ''the second line is actually quite accurate''. DesLife said it's not. Thus you are wrong and we're all right. You are a disgrace to the English language.
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I thought DesFuck was replying to "we experience it differently."
 
what has love to do with maturity by the way? is that being mature when you get attached to someone to the point you can't live without her? I don't think the problem is maturity here. the problem is just that she doesn't love you. she just uses you and when she is bored she finds someone else. in a way that's quite mature, no? though it's not very respectable of course.
 
Fauch said:
what has love to do with maturity by the way? is that being mature when you get attached to someone to the point you can't live without her? I don't think the problem is maturity here. the problem is just that she doesn't love you. she just uses you and when she is bored she finds someone else. in a way that's quite mature, no? though it's not very respectable of course.
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No, not at all, being "mature" is merely when you're able to handle the situation well, whether it works out or not, and your actions aren't rash. In my opinion, getting attached to someone to the point where you can't live without them is actually childish, because it shows you would be an extremely weak individual on your own. The whole point isn't the intensity of the love, it's how you handle it.


Pusianka said:
Hah, how come I didn't come up with it first! oh yea because I'd be censored...
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It's all about reputation my dear friend.
 
No, not at all, being "mature" is merely when you're able to handle the situation well, whether it works out or not, and your actions aren't rash.
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more or less what I meant.

In my opinion, getting attached to someone to the point where you can't live without them is actually childish, because it shows you would be an extremely weak individual on your own.
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and it's what many people call love, no? it's when you want to live with the other person and stuffs like that. if you weren't very attached to someone, why would you even think about living with her? I'm not sure childish is the word, it is very hard to control for some people. it's not like it's a decision you made. usually, you don't choose.

The whole point isn't the intensity of the love, it's how you handle it.
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what do you mean by "handling it"?
 
Fauch said:
and it's what many people call love, no? it's when you want to live with the other person and stuffs like that. if you weren't very attached to someone, why would you even think about living with her? I'm not sure childish is the word, it is very hard to control for some people. it's not like it's a decision you made. usually, you don't choose.
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Not exactly what I meant. I mean, it's perfectly alright to love someone with everything you have, but I think it's also a necessity to be able to stand on your own two feet if it's required. Say the lover dies unexpectedly, if you aren't able to be an independent soul, you'll end up mourning over that someone for all eternity. If you are able to be independent, you would be able to live with it. Things happen, and the less mentally prepared you are in case that something does happen, the more it will hurt when it does happen. Not being able to cope I would consider immature.

The whole point isn't the intensity of the love, it's how you handle it.
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what do you mean by "handling it"?[/quote]
How you handle each others' genitals of course. Jk, I mean how you manage the love situation.
 
I have few good friends (who dont know each other). Im playing RO in 2 player co op with 2 of them. Im pretty stuck with my old friends, i dont easily make new friends thats maybe because finns and greeks have very different social interacting, i have them both so its hard to find a balance between them. Im a single right now, but i had a girl once.

Im a person who really wants new friends. Some months ago i tried to look for activities for half greeks and half finns just like me. There i had had new friends for sure, but i couldnt find any activities in finn greek communities, so ive been since then a little frustrated, which increased my ice creamholism and some other unhealthy habits.

Pirate community is my first forum (if not counting RZ). I havent used social networks before. Forum friendships are not as important as friendships in which you see your friend in real life, but still theyre important for me. Ive been in the Rayman Pirate community for just few months, but i really wish that as time goes forward, ill be friend with many of you.

Could it be possible that we (members) could meet in real life some day? The problem is that we are from so many different countries around the world, but could we all members (who got time) go to France some summer holiday and meet somewhere and play all Rayman games together?
 
Mammothphant 2 said:
Forum friendships are not as important as friendships in which you see your friend in real life
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I would beg to differ in certain cases.

Mammothphant 2 said:
Could it be possible that we (members) could meet in real life some day? The problem is that we are from so many different countries around the world, but could we all members (who got time) go to France some summer holiday and meet somewhere and play all Rayman games together?
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Sure! I always would love to do that sort of thing. I know that once I'm about 20 I'll be moving over to Europe, in which I'll meet up with tonnes of people such as PowerPatrick, DesLife, Humch, Xenon, Eshap, and some others.
 
I think online friendships are very different to real friendships. I am close to quite a few members here, but (without sounding rude) I wouldn't consider any of them to have a serious place in my circle of friends. People do meet up here, but in my opinion it's not wise to actively search for friendships through online communities.

Ever since I left college, nearly all of my friends moved away to prepare for university, and I've had very limited contact with them as a result. It's a shame in a way, but there are now only a small handful of people who I'm genuinely 'close' to: my partner and a few old friends, so in that respect, I can relate to what you're saying about wanting to find more friends. But equally I think finding independence is important, and by growing up you need to be able to get through difficult stages in life without necessarily having a close-net group of friends to help you out.

As for what Rayfan's saying, I don't think it's fair to label a person as immature just because they rely on someone important to them. Nobody can help the way they feel, and I've known some very strong characters who've been mentally destroyed by the acts of the person they love.
 
I actually had intended to add "in certain cases," which I did now, but I had totally forgotten earlier. :oops2:

Xenon said:
As for what Rayfan's saying, I don't think it's fair to label a person as immature just because they rely on someone important to them. Nobody can help the way they feel, and I've known some very strong characters who've been mentally destroyed by the acts of the person they love.
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I suppose you have a point... but, I still believe that, regardless of how strong willed said person might be, the trait of coping well is still something that can lack and can furthermore be obtained. Even if there's a small insecurity breach that causes the person to break down, that can still be blocked off more and more (positively, not as in bottling up).

I wasn't intent on labelling someone as immature exclusively over the lack of coping skills, but I think not being able to cope is one trait of immaturity (which by no means would label someone as immature).
 
RayFan9876 said:
Mammothphant 2 said:
Forum friendships are not as important as friendships in which you see your friend in real life
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I would beg to differ in certain cases.

Mammothphant 2 said:
Could it be possible that we (members) could meet in real life some day? The problem is that we are from so many different countries around the world, but could we all members (who got time) go to France some summer holiday and meet somewhere and play all Rayman games together?
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Sure! I always would love to do that sort of thing. I know that once I'm about 20 I'll be moving over to Europe, in which I'll meet up with tonnes of people such as PowerPatrick, DesLife, Humch, Xenon, Eshap, and some others.
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Yes but do you meet them all in one place or do you visit their countries and meet one after another?

Xenon your story is similar to mine. When i was in school from class 1 to class 6 i had very nice class with many friends, but then the class was broken, all friends (except for one) changed school and the new class wasnt so nice. There was a f***ing bully who made my class years 7-8 difficult.
 
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Yes but do you meet them all in one place or do you visit their countries and meet one after another?
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I'm not sure, I'll have to wait for the future to play out to know.

Mammothphant 2 said:
Xenon your story is similar to mine. When i was in school from class 1 to class 6 i had very nice class with many friends, but then the class was broken, all friends (except for one) changed school and the new class wasnt so nice. There was a f***ing bully who made my class years 7-8 difficult.
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I know it sounds similar, but I honestly don't think that primary school and college relate at all, especially considering the mind set you would have in either situation.
 
is he talking about college? you'll see when they'll work. it's not just in another school they will be...
 
Fauch said:
is he talking about college? you'll see when they'll work. it's not just in another school they will be...
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Xenon said:
Ever since I left college, nearly all of my friends moved away to prepare for university, and I've had very limited contact with them as a result.
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I have seen that many times when i say something a bit stronger, many members start to treat me like i would be an asshole. They make fun of me and many comments like " Take that!" or "RL is better than you!" appear. Do you usually do this for members who say a bit stronger or what? It makes me sometimes feel im not wanted in here.

Saying sometimes things a bit stronger is simply my way. Im not trying to offend anyone and even though i have strong opinions i never force anyone to agree with me, no way! I take seriously many things and when i got bigger opinions i show them instead of hiding. Thats my nature. Can you deal with it? The last time i said a bit stronger i wasnt even angry for you, i was for Ubi because of the exclusiveness.

I would like to have good time here and chat happily with you others and friends etc.
 
It is perfectly possible make your point very strongly while still remaining coherent and civilised. That means be logical, reasonable, and don't jump to silly conclusions with derogatory remarks that hold no merit. You usually tend to do the opposite, often consisting of caps and rage faces, which only makes you look like a child having a temper tantrum. I know you've gotten a bit better, but you're still lacking a lot of logic, reason and rationality behind your concepts and accusations. Most of us don't want to 'chat happily' with someone who continuously makes infuriatingly rash and downright false remarks, but many of us would be very pleased to see you fix those things.
 
RayFan9876 said:
It is perfectly possible make your point very strongly while still remaining coherent and civilised. That means be logical, reasonable, and don't jump to silly conclusions with derogatory remarks that hold no merit. You usually tend to do the opposite, often consisting of caps and rage faces, which only makes you look like a child having a temper tantrum. I know you've gotten a bit better, but you're still lacking a lot of logic, reason and rationality behind your concepts and accusations. Most of us don't want to 'chat happily' with someone who continuously makes infuriatingly rash and downright false remarks, but many of us would be very pleased to see you fix those things.
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Youre right.
Sometimes i dont explain my opinion but sometimes thats because i have poor English. Sometimes when i try to explain, many dont get it the right way.

I maybe need to study more English, but i dont know when i have time for that, because i have to study and improve my Greek too.
 
Today is the worst day of my life, the girl I love since almost a year have a boyfriend.
 
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