Friendship, love et cetera

My friends are adults and they sure like getting drunk. When I said that I wouldn't mind trying alcohol, they were pretty... well, eager. But yeah, I'd rather get drunk alone at home than in public. Some day they'll probably take me along to their adventures and given that one glass has always been enough to me, my guess is that I'll end up being the one to carry them home.
 
I've made a few college friends recently. It's like, a bunch of people literally clung onto me specifically, and I've ended up as the neutral, moderator of the group (the latter may have something to do with me being Class Rep, now that I think about it).

However, I have terrible trust issues. I went through some really tough betrayals at the beginning of the summer. One was a best friend of mine for 6 years, the other was a girl whom I valued as a best friend, but was also in love with for three years. And over the course of my life, I've went through quite a bit of backstabbing.

The only person I truly trust is my best friend of 4 or so years. We've only ever had one real argument where we didn't talk to each other for a day, so it wasn't that serious. Plus, I can just kind of feel that he values me as much as I do him. He's even let on that he values me over his girlfriend, or wants to spend time with me more than her, though I don't think he should. If you have a lover, it's OK to be with them often, and you should do so.

I intend to never drink alcohol. I was tricked into drinking alcohol when I was younger by my dad, but other than that, I won't be drinking alcohol at all. Doesn't hold any any appeal to me.

As for sex, I only intend to have it with a girl I truly love. But if my trust issues don't go away, then I won't find that. Oh well, it's not something I need anyway.
 
GNineify said:
But yeah, I'd rather get drunk alone at home than in public.
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What's the point of drinking if you're not having any kind of social interaction? That's just sad. You need to get out more.

sonicbrawler182 said:
I intend to never drink alcohol.
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sonicbrawler182 said:
As for sex, I only intend to have it with a girl I truly love.
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These rules are... not much fun. I'd recommend dropping both of them immediately. Especially the former, which obstructs the latter.
 
spiraldoor said:
GNineify said:
But yeah, I'd rather get drunk alone at home than in public.
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What's the point of drinking if you're not having any kind of social interaction? That's just sad. You need to get out more.
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I do spend time outside and interact with people pretty much every day. It'd be unhealthy if I didn't. But when it's about being drunk, why should I embarrass myself in public? The main reason in my case is to drown all my sorrows and I think it's better to do that alone. It's just how I perceive it.
 
You don't do it in public. You do it in a pub surrounded by friends who are also getting drunk. You're all on the same page, so unless you get utterly hammered, any embarrassing behaviour on your part is more than covered by the fact that everyone else is behaving the same way. If you've got to work through some problems, you can do so by having deep and meaningful conversations that your friends will only remember part of the next morning – it's much more productive to get stuff off your chest this way than drink yourself into oblivion alone.
 
spiraldoor said:
GNineify said:
But yeah, I'd rather get drunk alone at home than in public.
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What's the point of drinking if you're not having any kind of social interaction? That's just sad. You need to get out more.

sonicbrawler182 said:
I intend to never drink alcohol.
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sonicbrawler182 said:
As for sex, I only intend to have it with a girl I truly love.
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These rules are... not much fun. I'd recommend dropping both of them immediately. Especially the former, which obstructs the latter.
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...Why would I? They reflect some of my personal values.

And regarding alcohol, I literally just don't find it appealing. I'm perfectly happy drinking non-alcoholic stuff during a night out, especially since it's cheaper.

And as for the sex thing, there are a few reasons for that:

-Having sex with all kinds of people willy-nilly is a sure fire way to get STDs, even with protection on.
-Having sex with someone creates a connection of sorts with them. Even if a person seems like a casual sex kind of person, or is just a "friend with benefits", they could still get attached to you. I don't want anyone to get attached to me right now. I'm already trying to ease a girl off my back.

And I could probably think of a few more. But I won't mention them.
 
The problem with relying on a "case-by-case" mindset alone is that one day, you'll find yourself in a case that is too complicated to get out of with quick thinking. That's why I have absolute mottos for some things, and break away from them when I see fit.

And right now, I just could not want a relationship less. I've been happier with focusing on college, and having solid relationships with my new college friends, as well as keeping in touch with my best friend. Things are much less complicated for me than they have been for the last few years. I want a break from stress. I'm at one of the most carefree stages of my life, and I feel less stressed. I still have problems, I'm never without them. But the way I've been doing things since the beginning of summer has helped me tremendously.
 
Getting drunk by yourself is really not a good thing, in fact many people consider it to be a sign of depression.
 
Dark Lum Lord said:
Then there's the fact that only drinking one sip made me feel dizzy and what I perceive to be the feeling of "drunk-ness", albeit likely minor feeling of it, or possibly at least, since I hadn't gotten drunk in the first place therefore I don't know the feeling exactly. As for drugs, I'm a bit more open about drugs, however the only one I think I'd give a try would be marijuana and maybe acid or some other ones of the psychedelic variety. I'm hoping I'll stay away from the rest of 'em though.
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When my dad gets drunk, he can't walk straight, I guess this is common for everyone who does, but he also get extremely depressed and starts crying about his deceased brother, that's why I hate when he start drinking because I know he is going to start crying again for 4 hours. I don't like seeing people cry, it makes me want to cry. :|
As for my mom, she never drinks enough to get drunk, she only drink during Christmas and new year. The only time she got drunk was on her honey moon with dad and my dad recorded her, she thought something looked like eggs and that the fire extincting bottle thing was ketchup, it was hilarious.

Although, I even less want to take drugs than drink, the only reason I would would be to get rid of a sickness or take the pain of something away if its worth it ( like getting bitten by a crocodile. ). Since I know some of the things in some specific drugs have this effect.
 
ZeptoRay said:
When my dad gets drunk, he can't walk straight, I guess this is common for everyone who does, but he also get extremely depressed and starts crying about his deceased brother, that's why I hate when he start drinking because I know he is going to start crying again for 4 hours. I don't like seeing people cry, it makes me want to cry. :|
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Sounds like your dad doesn't just get drunk – he gets absolutely plastered. If that's your frame of reference then it's no wonder you're so cautious. Just have a pint with some fun people and see what you make of it. As long as you take it slowly you'll be fine.

Dark Lum Lord said:
Then there's the fact that only drinking one sip made me feel dizzy and what I perceive to be the feeling of "drunk-ness", albeit likely minor feeling of it, or possibly at least, since I hadn't gotten drunk in the first place therefore I don't know the feeling exactly.
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You're far too young to be thinking about drinking, let alone doing it. Just forget it for a couple of years.

Dark Lum Lord said:
As for drugs, I'm a bit more open about drugs, however the only one I think I'd give a try would be marijuana and maybe acid or some other ones of the psychedelic variety. I'm hoping I'll stay away from the rest of 'em though.
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ZeptoRay said:
Although, I even less want to take drugs than drink, the only reason I would would be to get rid of a sickness or take the pain of something away if its worth it ( like getting bitten by a crocodile. ). Since I know some of the things in some specific drugs have this effect.
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Don't do drugs guys.
 
My dad and his friends would probably be my reference about drinking, also the rest of the family too. Maybe I will, Maybe I wont. Probably wont since its not my kind of view of fun.

And I'm not going to do drugs hell no.

MrBadGuy said:
spiraldoor said:
Don't do drugs guys.
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Except maybe marijuana occasionally. Although it can be harmful to some people. ;)
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"A Canadian study showed cannabis can reduce "nerve pain" from surgical complications or injuries." - Wikipedia.
 
Woooo go Canada!
Studies performed in my flat have shown it can also mellow you out beyond belief and make you crave Dominos.
Also makes Trials Evolution about 500 times better (and funnier)
 
ZeptoRay said:
When my dad gets drunk, he can't walk straight, I guess this is common for everyone who does, but he also get extremely depressed and starts crying about his deceased brother, that's why I hate when he start drinking because I know he is going to start crying again for 4 hours. I don't like seeing people cry, it makes me want to cry. :|
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And that's exactly why I don't see the "fun" in it. I'm unable to understand how someone can find joy or even be proud of the fact that they drank to the point where they lost their minds and started acting up.

ZeptoRay said:
Ah, lucky, I don't talk with my friend for 9 months and then we do something together, then we don't see each others for even more longer, I think the friendship with her is just dying in a hole. Only reason why I don't talk to her is because I don't even know her phone number and her parents are separated so I never know which one she is at, and her dad scares me. I honestly don't really have a real friend over here, it gets really lonely.
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I have one friend but he's just kinda... I dunno. He and his whole family together are some of the strangest people I've ever met. And not strange in the fun manner, but more as in, well, doing things like covering up their windows so it always looks like night inside and then not know why they decided to do so. He's the most sane of the bunch, and while we get along fine I feel like I have much more of a friendship with people here. We'd never have a discussion like this. We'd talk about games and movies or whatever, but it didn't go much further then that.

spiraldoor said:
These rules are... not much fun. I'd recommend dropping both of them immediately. Especially the former, which obstructs the latter.
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I disagree. I'm not looking to find folks whom are into getting drunk with each other and having meaningless sex, so drinking to get social interaction with those people would only be pointless in my opinion.
 
Keane said:
I'm unable to understand how someone can find joy or even be proud of the fact that they drank to the point where they lost their minds and started acting up.
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Because it's funny, and it's not boring.
 
It's obviously only funny in the right context, for example, a mate of mine just got really drunk during freshers week, and now he has a shaved head. Fucking. Hilarious.
 
MrBadGuy said:
Getting drunk by yourself is really not a good thing, in fact many people consider it to be a sign of depression.
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Heh I do that on a regular basis...

I drink because I enjoy the taste of it and not to feel more self confident or to start acting like an idiot (I do the later perfectly fine sober). I suppose the fun in it is mainly to see your friends act piss stupid, but I can't confirm this myself as i've never gone out with friends. :? Booze is something I think people make themselves only see the negative side of because drinking isn't all that dangerous if you take caution as to how much you're drinking and making sure that you're not alone (unless like me you're always stuck at home).
 
Yeah its something you really have to experience yourself and with your own friends to truly understand the humor and hype behind getting drunk. Even if your against the thought at this point, I recommend at least trying it once with some mates before you finalize a proper opinion and judgment on the matter.
 
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